| Situation:
Went to the bus stop to catch the midnight bus and realised I had to wait an hour for the next bus to come, so I decided to walk around the city looking for something to do. After some macas I decided to head back to the bus stop which is 30 mins walk from where I was and 2 girls approached me as they were walking towards the main street for clubbing HB7 and two HB8. HB7 opened me which was surprising because I looked like I just finished work(Was at cybercafe gaming after work).
HB7: Hey, whats up?
Me: Hey
HB7: What are you up to tonight?
Me: I just finished work and Im about to head home, but I can see that you're about to head out to town
HB7: Yeah we're going to town, where do you work?
Me: Cmon now thats not very fair you havnt told me anything about yourself and you expect me to tell you more then what you need to know for now
HB7:(playfull hit) (turns around to her friends) We have a lawyer, teacher etc...
Me: in my head (shit their lawyers, teachers.....)
Me: Well Im an open minded person who has potential
HB7: (turns around to friends) ohhhhh girls we have a charmer on our hands
Me: ??( I was puzzled wether it was good or bad but meh charmers are good so keep gaming)
At this stage we just talked about mundane things such as Uni, and they still wanted to know what I did for work etc
HB8: What do you do for work?
Me: ( I said what I did for work without challenging her) - mistake
At this stage I took a different direction towards my destination and ejected the set
What I learned,
My state of mind was still on the noobs I was playing with earlier (which costed me a few bad games)
I should have challenged the HB8 for asking what I did for work as I had challenged her friend earlier, I managed to get out of my comfort zone (my head) longer then I had expected, I got comfortable talking with the group of girls, I need to learn how to lead a conversation and have something interesting to say, more kino, and grow bigger balls to step up
What I did right
Body language was precised with strong confident posture, good pace while I was walking, being playfull with the set, projected Im a person by creating my own hoops and challenges.
My thoughts:
There are still times when I get confused and into my head such as when HB7 said Im a charmer didnt know how to take that - I guess thats a confidence issue. When the girls mentioned their line of work I got intimidated that they all sounded successfull because I work as a laborer again maybe confidence issues _________________ Three Types of Players:
1) Those who doesn't know whats happening
2) Those who watch what happens
3) Those who make it happen
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