Normally I'm passive on this forum yet this saturday's case is really breaking my head. As I myself might not see clearly on the situation I'm asking for some help on this one. Here it goes.

Well after some warming up drinking - toying around with a woman who was going to marry shortly and who held her bachelor's night - we went to a local club. The place is quite posh and the majority of people there are in their 30's (Me and my mates lower- and mid-20's).
At some point a friend of mine started chatting with this stunning girl he knew from his hometown. I only knew here by name because I once spotted her on facebook and as she is totally hot, she caught my attention. She was marriage material meaning not the model like (blonde, blue eyes and tall) hot, yet smoking hot. Black hair, dark eyes, extremely well dressed. She both had elegance and style.


Anywayz started the convo which went like a blast. She was totally fun and so was I. Did lots of kino and she was more than ok with that. Even mentioned her waist while holding it and she did not back off. At any given day I'd say that it was going smooth.

And then she kind of totally killed it.

I've forgotten what the conversation was about (it just went so smooth, we laughed and went from topic to topic) but all of the sudden she said "you are my best friend", grabbed my around my neck and kissed me on the cheek. But the way I feel it, it just didn't feel sexually. I responded with an "am I your friend?" in my typical ironic toning. The convo went on before her eventually leaving.

I went for a piss and then started playing a brunette milf. She dug it totally. Same stuff, lots of laughing, lots of kino. Yet again she was totally buying it, eventually saying "we can't just have sex? I would be so wrong!" As I wasn't planning on really taking her home I said goodbye.

Then went back to chat with the first girl. The vibe was still on: still hardcore kino, hardcore fun, yet I just had the feeling it lacked sexuality and thus I pulled out some of the bigger guns. I went full on direct, told her to meet again, got her number eventhough some dude was cockblocking by showing some lame video on his phone. Kept my cool and sealed the deal. We arranged to meet again at the club next week. I said she may remain calm as I will not kiss her today but I surely will next week. She laughed, but in a you're so funny way. Next week I will truly seduce you, this was all warmup. She was still laughing, still in a you're so funny kind of way. Said goodbye and off we went.

Though I had a blast with this girl and I'm pretty sure she had too, something it feels wrong.

Now I'm thinking what I might have done wrong. Here's what I've come up with:

1. I might have overcomplimented her. I complimented her for what she was wearing, for being the hottest dutch girl I know (I'm belgian, so she's from a neighbouring country). I delivered them all in an ironic Cobra Commander Tom (check Keys To the vip) kind of way. So they could also go for a neg. But maby she did not feel it that way. The way I feel it, this might have been my biggest flaw. I did not compliment the milf and while both convo's went equally smooth it felt like when I were about to have pussy, it would have definitely been with the milf.
2. She ended the convo the first time. It ended because she went somewhere else, not because the convo went boring or something like that. Maby I should have ended before her? Maby it showed some neediness? Dunno, I don't think I come over needy. For real, I am not.
3. At some point in the conversation she mentioned some douchebag calling her fat. Though she wasn't model like thin, she had a great body so this was an uberlame insult. I said her he is douchebag and that she has a great body and an even better ass. (which I said less ironical, but still a bit tongue in cheek). Then she pointed him out to me and I asked her if she wanted me to go chat with that douche. She said no, so I didn't. The way I see it at this point I shouldn't have asked but just acted. I'm not the fighting type of guy, nor am I impulsive but there's nothing wrong with calling him the biggest douche on the planet face-to-face. I didn't. Might this have been a fail? I'm pretty sure Hank Moody would have punched the guy ko.
4. Maby I was just acting way to funny. I have no problem with holding a conversation but it lacks sexuality. Like 60 years of challenge writes in his manifesto. I tried to kill the conversation by saying I actually don't like chatting too much but that might have been the baddest part of the conversation. She said she loved to talk and seemed a little disappointed in me.

The way I feel it, it is lost. But is it?
Normally I'd say fuck it but I like this girl as she is fun to be with so meeting her again would be cool. My plan is to send her a text like "let's get shitfaced on booze" or something but would that be a good plan?

Though I'm now in doubt I can say that I've refound my passion for the game. Some of the former pick-ups I did were so analythical that I started to loath it. Felt really bad about it, even wanted to quit gaming for some time. But after this saturday I remember what it's all about: having fun while making the girl have a good time. Try to leave the girl feeling better than she was before. And I think both the girl and the milf don't regret having met me.