Hey I could need some advice regarding observing windows of escalation. I recently opened a girl at a party who was a friend of my best mate and a HB8. It was a lame opener but i hadn't really had the balls to open anybody else that night so was feeling kinda low. So I asked how she knew my friend. Then the weirdest thing happened. Se was sitting in this small chair and asked me to sit with her and she like pressed her thighs against mine and just started fucking babbling. She kept intense eye contact and licked her lips and i was just like what the fuck did i do to attract this girl? So I jumped straight to A3 without using any DHV-routines and started screening her. I asked what music she liked and we pretty much liked all the same bands etc. She was great. She suggested that we moved outside so we did. Here we started talking about our lives and what we found important. Then she asked if we should go somewhere private so that we could listen to some music. I didn't see the opportunity to get somewhere private and make something happen so I brushed of stupidly because I thought that i needed more comfort. However I can see the mistake I made now but I have trouble seeing it in the actual moment. Generally I spend to much time in comfort which is bad. But I simply find it hard to see the windows of escalation.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated

umm...just go for it ? somebody said somewhere "assume attraction until proven other wise"

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Yeah I guess you are right. I probably think to much about whether escalating is the right thing to do. Instead I should just do it and then step back if she can't take it. Just find the "heavier" escalation hard to do.

plus if u spend TOO much time in comfort

ur going to get the LJBF talk

just man up and makd a move
ull be thankful when u do!

cheers

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True... Didn't get the ljbf-talk but she lost attraction when I failed escalating. However I know one bulletproof way of eliminating the problem. I just need to do courage and train. I was talking to a friend about this a short time ago and he said that I just need to train more in the field then I will easily be able to spot the escalation windows. I guess he is right