So I started talking to this girl around a month ago, she's easily a 10/10, so I knew it would be a challenge (she's very well competed for). I started speaking to her more often, especially in college- and started going out with her with a couple of her friends and a couple of mine. She seemed to flirt with me quite a bit so I thought it was all going well.

Last week I plucked up the courage to ask her on a date, I had seen her that night and rang her later to ask her (I was a little bit drunk). She agreed to the date and she said she'd let me take her out. The next day I was completely ignored by her. She ignored my calls and messages. Angry and a little hurt I sent her a message 'What's going on?!'. She replied: 'Well I dunno, you asked me by calling me after you saw me, and I'm busy, how about Friday?'.

So obviously I agreed to seeing her on Friday, but once again she ignored my calls, I called this the final straw- and I have decided to freeze her out- she sent me a text saying: ' I don't want you to hate me, I kind of like someone else and I don't want to be bitchy and lead you on. I was seriously considering the date but the best idea was not to.' And a few hours after 'Are you pissed off with me?'- I replied to neither.

I'm really pissed off that I blew it with this girl, note that I also kissed her when we were at a party together ( but we were both drunk)- any tips on a way to get her back? Will the freeze out work?

Thanks, DannyBlue

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Seeder

Although I´m not into PUA that long, I can easily see many mistakes... this won´t be nice for you to read, but will surely help you...

First thing, she shouldn´t need to be drunk to approach her, it´s no use to rely on that, even if it does work on partys, your goal should be to develop natural confidence.

Second mistake, you ran after her, acted really needy and wrote a message, that showed her, that you were constantly thinking of her. At this early stage, you should actually let the woman think exactly the opposite. Than you aggreed on anything she suggested, making her think even more that you are needy.

Judging from what she said, I would say she is not attracted to you and wants to keep you as a friend.

By freezing her out after what happened so far, you will not be able to get her back this way. I would suggest to forget the idea of being with her and rather approach other girls to develop more confidence and practice your game. Keep a positive contact to her and maybe you can start another attempt later on.

Yeah, I can see that now. I shouldn't haven't talked to her at all once I got screwed up over the first date.

Thanks for the advice.

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Since you described her as a 10/10 this obviously means shes already got a ton of guys chasing after her. Your actions make you "Just another" one of those guys. Girls want someone special, someone different from the 1000 other guys chasing after them, by not chasing that puts you one step ahead. To make her view you as a potential suitor, Dont Freeze Her Out. From talking to alot of girls I know that freezing someone out can sometimes have a negative effect which is a weakened friendship or relationship.

Even though she seems to show no indicators of interest you still have a pretty good shot at building attraction. Its a long way to go but to put it short, still talk with her but beware of falling pernamently into the friend zone.

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Thanks Detroit, maybe you could expand on your point for me? How should I make her find me attractive, how could I show I can be different from before?

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get up, get over.

seriously man, shes into someone else, trust me, shes not gonna change her mind. Harsh but true, its gonna feel shit for a while, but after youll realise it was for the best x