| First up, I don't consider myself a PUA yet because I'm in that stage where I'm still catching myself getting a huge boost from hooking girls and a huge failure when I don't... other words I'm still not completely congruent with the confidence I project and still afraid of rejection.
FR: two HB8s where in our group, initially we were ignoring each other, and at some point I started telling them a cool storey, but right in the middle of the storey one of the HBs turned around and said "you know who you remind me of", completely cutting my thread, I made her feel like a social retard for interrupting my storey but didn’t know how to reclaim the frame, so I bought into her frame and allowed the two girls interrupt my storey to decide on who I talk/look like without paying much interest to what they thought. Waiting for them to get it out of their system before re-engaging in my storey, which I could not pull off as well, since the girl cutting my thread tried desperately to engage in a different conversation elsewhere. Damn! She was my target, and I just couldn’t really pull the storey off after that, even though her friend claimed it was cool. they were just all over the shop, no longer easy to pull in. what do you think these girls wanted, I found out later the target was the type that gets with boys that treat her bad and she has had loads of shitty relationships (perfect SNL or keep clear girl? remember she was hot). I felt so shit for not being able to hook this girl, I ended up opening a two set close by with a shake and bake opener, then for some fucked up reason I froze, and asked "so what do you guys do?"... which the weird thing was they were hooked from the opener and were interested but not in my stupid follow up question, the girl I opened was almost asking me, "just forget this question, cut it, and lead us somewhere else", in response to which I half politely ejected.... One of my friends saw this interaction which I think I lost respect in his eyes.
Man it’s so fucked up I'm still looking for other peoples approvals, I really want it to come from within me even when I crash and burn like that... any suggestions? Also How do I get into memorising and actually using routines... They seem so frequently used and unnatural I think I would give away my game straight away by using them...
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