Hello all,
RAFC reporting on a somewhat successful pickup I made 2 days ago. I say "somewhat" because although the pickup went perfectly, I later figured out this girl has some issues that I really should have picked up on earlier.

Anyway, we were throwing a big birthday party for my roommates in my house. Pretty rowdy, people getting good and drunk. I noticed this skinny asian HB7 standing around by herself, so I opened her with the "what's your favorite flavour of bowling ball?" routine. We were chatting a bit and she was really forward, not giving huge IOIs but just generally acting very sexual. She was wearing a long frilly shirt and no pants, kind of the summer pajamas look. She was nursing a bottle of australian wine so I joked about her being a lush and we started chatting about who we knew at the party.

So far so good. But then she started talking about this other guy at the party she was into, and how she was trying to make him sleep with her, but he couldn't get over the fact that she had a boyfriend. *huge sirens going off here* Of course, being the idiot I am I thought she was just trying to make me jealous, so I shut down my game and wandered back to my friends to freeze her out a bit.

Time passes, my friends are asking why I'm not trying to close her, and lo and behold she wanders back over to ask me something. I resume the conversation, and say I have to go refill my drink and isolate her in the kitchen. She is a little tipsy and starts hanging on my shoulder. She says something about "living in the moment" and I say, "you know, there's this great shakespeare sonnet about that... let me go grab my copy of it..." and start up towards my room upstairs. She follows me up, we go in and sit down. I'm thumbing through the bard's complete works and she says "why don't you take your pants off..." You know the rest.

As we're talking later, she runs her same jealousy thing past me and I brush her off. We talk a little bit and wander around the party, eventually things turn weird and people are fighting in the kitchen, etc. She leaves with a friend, we don't exchange numbers.

The next day I cleaned up the house and took care of our my hung over roommates. Things were pretty quiet when I heard the doorbell ring around midnight. I thought it was my roommate getting back from work having forgotten his keys or something, but she's standing at the door, looking upset, and asks if my other roommate (her good friend) is home. He's not, so I ask what's wrong and if she'd like to come in. She hesitates but reluctantly accepts. At this point I obviously do not intend to sleep with her or do anything beyond showing a little human decency. She was apparently stood up that evening by her guy friend (not the boyfriend) and is distraught about it. She goes on about how she's had this really fucked-up life, feels guilty about her boyfriend but more upset about this other boy. I try to be nice and generally platonic, but after she's finished venting she starts saying how she doesn't feel guilty about the fact she's going to sleep with me. I'm pretty taken aback, try and turn the conversation more normal, then she somehow guilt trips me about rejecting her and I end up taking her to the bedroom since I can't bear to crush this girl's self esteem further.

What a cornucopia of mistakes! Obviously, since I'm writing this, I intend to keep her at arm's length and not sleep with her again under any circumstances. She's got more issues than the library periodical desk, but I mistook this for a cavalier attitude toward sex and a run-of-the mill daddy complex. Not so. In fact she's an emotionally manipulative trainwreck who needs professional help. Unfortunately I can't exactly tell her to get lost since she's an old friend of my roommate. I'm hoping she just forgets my ass and makes up with her boyfriend or whatever, but I expect I'll probably just have to confront her about it the next time I see her.

Anyway, I understand I made three critical errors:
1. Target selection - heed the warning signs of LSE and other issues
2. Failure to manage expectations since she came back wanting more
3. Not biting the bullet and telling her "no" the next day

So yeah. A learning experience. I think I understand my fuck-ups, but I'd welcome any insights you may have. Also, any advice on damage control going forward would be appreciated. I'm thinking a more firm approach i.e. "this isn't what I want, sorry", will work as opposed to trying to let her down gently. Wish I could tell her to seek help but obv. I'm in no position to be giving out such advice.

Thx for reading.

-max tex