Tonight... i got LBJF'd in the worst way possible. Let's start off with my night, as it is a field report. I never knew how effective it is to actually psyche yourself up before you go out to sarge. I mean, some of you guys may not chose to drink due to it affecting your game in a detrimental proportion. Or, you may say even though i'm going out tonight, i just wanna go out and have fun with my friends, what ever happens, happens. If you ever find yourself saying this when you go out... You are creating a self defeating train of thought. You are not gonna be in the correct frame of mind when you do go out sarging. It becomes to the point, your are battling yourself when you sarge it shows non-verbally, through your body language and your facial expressions. It becomes forced. Trying to look like you have a higher energy than everyone else, when you've began your night in the wrong frame of mind, is too hard to over come. So a tip - Before you go out, put yourself in a positive frame of mind. By thinking you are the most desirable, and most sociable person, because no matter who you meet... male or female, short or tall, beautiful or ugly, you will give them the time of day as the time they will spend with you will be like gold and they will appreciate that as everyone wants a chance to tell you their story.

Now, because I put myself in that fame of mind I was set. I had a couple of my good friends with me, who I wouldn't call my wings, they were just there for social proof. I had warmed up with a four set... with the canned material, I walked past, and I used the perfume opener, that I've previously field tested. Where I'd abruptly stopped and made it so obvious that I had smelt something... and asked who was wearing the sweet perfume I could smell... If you want the opener, look up my post titled perfume opener. I got a laugh out of them, no number close... so we moved on to another club, I decided i'm gonna let go of the canned material move to something a little more spontaneous, and less rehearsed. This is something that I learnt off the juggler method, say yes regardless of what the girl says to you... It's a lil more easier to improvise, and keep a conversation flowing, rather than coming across as argumentative, and dull. I had approached a girl on her own, I saw that she wasn't smiling, and looked like she wasn't smiling. I said to her "you know, you'd think we're at a funeral rather than a night club... you should try smiling, you might have a better time". She smiled, but as she smiled that's better, now I would think you're having a good time... now in came the protective friend, but before her friend could take her away... I asked her, does she smile or is she always looking like someone died... with a wink at the non-smiling girl. Her friend laughed, and said no I think she's just tired... I looked at her, and stuck my tongue out, and she laughed... I said to her you know you have a beautiful smile, it's a shame you chose not to show it. It's at this point I knew I had won her, and the over-protective friend.

In came another friend, which I hadn't seen dancing with the set, now she had a smile that lit up the group... I made sure I pointed it out... and said smiling is so infectious, i'm so surprised you haven't got the disease, like your friend here to the first girl... pointing at my new target. This one, was easy. I danced with the group of girls, I built quite a good rapport with the entire group. Compliments I find go a long way... but provided, that they done something to earn that compliment. Compliments are rewards, for desirable behavior displayed by a female. Eg, you make a joke, then she reciprocates with a joke of her own... you laugh with her, and say I love your sense of humour. Also, SOI's, go hand in hand with finding a unique quality, that is specific to your target. My target had a lisp, and when I heard her talking with that lisp I told her, that I found her lisp sexy - # and kissed closed; she wanted to go on an instant date with me... I declined... why, well here's my defining moment, in my experience as a PUA. Being LJBF'd sucks!

I've been gaming one girl, for quite a while now and I knew in my head, that i've been steering this down the friends zone. This was due to, in the beginning that there was lack of kino escalation & and sexual tension not built up. I tried my hardest... Hell, even one night out on the town with this girl, she had even admitted to me that she loved me... at this point I had gone on 4 dates, without a K-close. So she admitted that she loved me, I laughed at her when she said this... I should have kissed her, when she said it... but I took it as, a joke. She became cold at me since I did this. She test or not... stupid move by me. Tonight, I managed to pick up at the bar where she works, without her seeing me do it. Pretty sneaky I know, but i put in the effort. So now, she had finished her shift, I didn't wanna seem like I was chasing her, as she said that she wanted to go dance. I didn't follow her. I said fuck it, i'm having a good time here, talking to randoms. Now I finished working the room, and I decided to go see where she was. I couldn't find her - I was thinking, do I want to find her. I eventually found her, with some guy. He had her on his lap. I should have been that guy, it should be me, with her on MY lap. This, is my defining moment. This is a tough lesson, that needed to be learned. But, I only wish that it wasn't this painful. I got LJBF'd in the worst possible way...

I know that she didn't see me as that guy, she wants to be intimate with... But I tried my hardest to change that, but tonight just confirmed the worst. Heed my warning all you aspiring PUA.... Don't be scared of kino & being sexual with a woman... If you fear these aspects, this is what happens... you'll see the girl you like, with someone else... I hope from my mistakes, you'll learn this lesson with out the pain.

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Experience is the teacher of all things - Julius Caesar