Ok. Some of you may remember this girl I was dating and that because of lack of progress I should have dropped. The thing is that I didn't drop the thing yet and tonight something strange happened. We are getting along really well, and I have learned to make her have fun and laugh and all that better than ever. as well, tonight I had a lot of social proof. It is important to know that I made out with her a week ago and it was pretty good and she responded well. The thing is that tonight, once we were back at her house I asked her to tell me what she wanted to happen to us, because I had already asked her to be with me but she said she had to think about it.

Her reply was super strange. She said, "Oh...God (rolled eyes)...I think you are confusing things..." "I know exactly what you are talking about..." and I said "what is it?" and she said "you want us to be like BF and GF but not telling anyone" (this basically means she thought I was asking her to be my fuck buddy). So I go like "you have misunderstood me. all I want is to know your side of the story. what gives? I know exactly what I want. but I want to know what you want"

She said sometimes she wants to be with me becuase she has a lot of fun with me and she likes to hang out with me (I think this is not good, she is not talking about me but about the things we do together which she could do with anyone else). Then she said she didn't wanted a boyfriend cuz she didn't had time and because I would get mad at her for not having time for me. Then she said she doesn't want me to get angry at her. but that she wasn't sure what she wanted.

Then I said something like "well, you should tell me once and for all if you want something or not, cuz I need to know. I can't just be waiting for you to make up your mind" and then she goes like "you don't need to wait". (basically this means, I don't care if you fk someone else or whatever. I don't care about what you do).

After all this she said a very calm and shy and quiet "let's give it a shot".
Then she said she has to get inside cuz it's late and has work tomorrow. I said "so you want to give a try then?" and she said "yes. but if nothing happens don't get mad at me" (this last phrase means something like "if this doesn't work I will break it real quick so don't get mad).

Then she kissed me on the CHEEK, and then I kissed her on the lips and that was it.

WTF?? I think this girl doesn't really want anything with me. I don't understand why she said yes. Maybe she wants to keep someone who takes her out and makes her laugh. Geez. I am not sure how I feel or how should I act now. Please offer comments and advice.

I have a GF, I have for the last 2 years, and I've found that the skills of a PUA help in relationships too. Its the inner game mostly. Joker and mystery and style all say that if you want to really get that girl to like you, you have to be willing to lose her. You have to give off the aura 95% of the time that it doesn't matter if she gets pissed. theres still five percent where you need to show her that she means something, but most of the time you need to show her that SHE ISN"T CALLING THE SHOTS!!!!!! and that is key. If she takes control, she will get bored and find reasons to be mad at you, or worse, she'll break up with you (aint that a shame Mr. Oneitis) Be in control and be collected. Dont ask her where its all going because that leaves it in her hands, if you want it to be exclusive, tell her that you have good news for her, you've decided to be her boyfriend or something cocky like that. The most important thing is to stay in control. The only reason I stress that so much is because I lose control from time to time and she will take it as soon as i let her, thats when things get crazy. If you really want to make this work, you have to put a lot of effort into it. Good luck.

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