Hi,
So, yesterday I was out on a rock bar in Stockholm to meet up with a girl. We had meet one time before (9 months ago) at the same bar and during that time we danced and kissed but I didn’t get to f-close here. I gave her my number (AFC style) and told her if she would like to have some fun she should just call me.
Then from nowhere I received an SMS this Monday or Tuesday and we start to text each other. I thought a lot of how I was saying things so that I sound confidence that I am in charge. Anyhow, we agree to meet up on this bar again. She is going with some friends and I am going alone (all my friends were out of town due to vacation/holiday times).
As the opening phase was already completed I started to read some mid-game information, especially these two categories:
• Conversations and how to keep them going to avoid the “awkward silence”
• Sexual Attraction (
sexual-attraction-explained-in-depth-vt40419.html)
I also wrote down some keynotes, which I kept in my wallet just to have something to lean back on.
Keynotes:
• Conversations (I took this information from this Swedish movie:
http://vimeo.com/moogaloop.swf?clip_id= ... llscreen=1) :
o Ask curious questions
o Be genuine interested
o Uptime
o Use here hooks to keep the conversation going
o Talk with passion
o Avoid negative stuff such as violence, disgusting stuff, religion etc.
I think I managed pretty well with this when it comes to the target. I thank I should have talked about some stuff with much more passion (my job, birth city etc.). I will try to write down some good and passionate answer to the standard questions.
When it comes to her friends (a girl and her boyfriend) I just introduced myself but at the same time we ordered some beers and shots and after that me and my target got separated from them so the target was isolated (not by my force though). However, this is a big point for me to make the targets friends like me (in general) and be the “guy which everyone likes” on the party, for social proof. Unfortunately I wasn’t able to get more experience as I hoped but there will be more occasions.
• Sexual State (I took this information from this thread
sexual-attraction-explained-in-depth-vt40419.html and also Gunwitch Method until section 8:
http://www.gunwitch.com/seduction/gwm1.html)
o Sexual State
Think that you are hot, horny and have desires!
Isolate the target (Women’s want sex as much but are afraid of her friends thinking of her as a slut)
Lone wolf (approach single woman because of point above)
Visualize having sex with the target
o Sexual Framing
Get the woman thinking about having sex with you
Sex jokes, unapologetically
Think “You two are already lovers”
o Sexual Tension
Mutual sexual tension
Attitude
• Body Language
• Being open about your desires
• Blame the target
Laughing, not joking
Kino
I had some more keynotes but the one mentioned above is the most important. Before I arrived to the rock bar I had text the target and said to her “You need to come meet me outside so I know where you sit. I call you later.” And later one I called her and said “I am here now. Come and meet me up”.
I was alone (i.e. with no friend of mine) and I tried to boost my confidence by saying to myself “You are the man, you are hot, you are horny!” which worked a little bit but I was still a little bit shaky but it was somewhat improved. I need to say stuff like this all the time so that I am glowing confidence automatically, all day and night long.
When I saw her I saw she was a little nervous on how to welcome me – with a hug, handshake or what? – So I leaned in and gave her a hug. We went in and I meet her friend and her boyfriend and we ordered a beer and tequila immediately to start with (I only drank one more beer after that during the whole night, I wanted to be focused).
This is when we got separated from the friend and her boyfriend. We were mostly talking (I was thinking of the keynotes above) and she touched me several times (IOI) and I touched her back. I think that I should have kino escalated even more but she was all into me and I didn’t wanted to be needy, as I was a couple of times when I followed after her.
Around 01:15 she told me “The last bus to [here hometown] leaves in 15 minutes. I have to go know if I want to catch it.”. Here I should have say something firm (I think) like “You will come home to me.” (With a wink and/or playfully cocky) but I said “Don’t worry about it know …”. It is the same message (indirectly) but the first message is more said in a confident way, not afraid of my desires, not afraid of “being open” (Sexual Tension) etc.
We danced a little bit, started to making out and after some time we took a taxi to my place and I fucked her.
I am really glad that I analyze the game and my action of them. Now when I watch a movie, some friends at a party or whatever I almost always think “Why do they do that? Is that a good way to get social proof? Does the girl find that attractive?”
Some improvements what I should have done:
• Kino escalated more
• Be more confident
• Talked to her friends a little more (especially during the presentation)
• Try some sex jokes (Sexual Framing) and more SOI overall
/Restarted