| PUA vs PUA: When you are the AMOG on the dance floor and you’re being gamed by a hostile PUA
So I’m out with this chick I play with regularly. We like to go dancing (that’s my thing) at this funky club near my pad. It’s a great long term strategy I have for pickup. I often go to the same place with her. She is a very hot sexy 8.5 and she loves to do the exhibitionist thing on the dance floor with me. We get free drinks when we go because so many people have told the manager that they love to stay and just watch us dance. So that’s working well. When I go in there alone, chicks often approach me because they have seen me dancing on other nights. When they ask about ‘that hot girl I was with’ I tell them she is my dance partner and we perform together (twist of truth there), but it’s a great conversation topic. Chicks love a dancing man. (TIP for PUAs … learn to f’n dance … seriously)
Anyway, this big, big dude comes in to the club with another guy and a couple of women. He is tall and heavy built but overweight as well. If he wasn’t overweight he would still be a giant. He’s well dressed, looks confident and is peacocking with a fancy shirt under his jacket. I can tell straight away that he is Game on. He scopes the room out a bit and picks me as the AMOG of the room.
Sexy kitten (that’s what I call her) and I are the only people on the dance floor, right in front of the DJ, half the club watching. He jumps on the floor solo for a minute. Not long before he gets the girls he came in with onto the floor. He’s going for the ‘life of the party’ thing. He doesn’t seem to know the women he came in with too well so I am guessing he’s done a venue change from one of the other clubs around. This one we are in is very chill and a has plenty of couches and shaded sexy corners for a bit of kino.
He dances a little, close to us, but he’s doing the old left foot right foot shuffle. Still, he is the only other male on the floor.
*** PUA Note: By dancing close to me, he is associating himself in the eyes of the room with me and is getting noticed by people who’s attention is already on me.
I move away from him smoothly with some funky steps. I don’t want to be associated with him, I fly solo.
It works for a while but then he moves in with a pretty slick maneuver.
He appears out of nowhere next to me, he puts his arm around me, friendly, with a big smile, interrupting my dancing.
If I had seen him approach me I could have very publically done a back turn snub at just the right moment while making it all look like part of the dance.
*** PUA Note: He has now visibly associated himself with me. Damn.
He very grandly, audibly, and politely asks if he can dance with my partner.
*** PUA Note: This is a good move for him as it puts me in a tricky position. To deny his polite and gentlemanly request would make me look insecure and defensive, jealous and possessive even. This is not good. However to comply would be submissive to his request and establish his Alpha status. It would also affirm his relationship with me which would be a benefit to him, but not necessarily to me.
My response was already planned for just such an eventuality.
Him: … something polite along the lines of “can I dance with your partner” and loud enough to be heard by his ‘audience’
Me: (loud enough to be heard also) “I don’t know … can you dance with my partner?” [this threw him momentarily but I don’t give him a chance to respond]
Me: “I would love to let you, but she is a highly trained precision dancing instrument, I can’t just loan her out to anybody … you understand … you have to prove you can handle her. Show me that you can do this” Whereupon I demonstrate a simple left spin.
*** PUA Note: I have now disassociated him with me by clearly expressing that I don’t know him or how he dances. Also, and this is the check, I just demanded he do tricks for me.
If he declines to play my game then he is a bad sport and leaves with his tail between his legs, if he complies then he is my bitch. I win either way.
He tries the spin, badly and a few other steps with equal unimpressiveness.
I ask kitty what she thinks.
She thinks he’s not ready yet (she didn’t want to dance with him to begin with).
He leaves.
The most important lesson here. When you are AMOG be prepared to respond to other PUAs.
Oh … and learn to dance.
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Sarging Solo since 1976
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