| My last night's effort of sarging, has been detrimental to my confidence. I've come across my latest sticking point: The Close Number closing is fine, no problems there. However last night presented an opportunity to Kiss close and when the time came to do so, I choked. I was out with a group of my mates for a b-day, so what better way to celebrate than go out, and have a few drinks or 3. We had arrived pretty early, and the club we went to was dead. I thought, this is excellent, I can try to befriend the bar staff, and just amp up my social proof. Which had worked a treat later on. At this point, the club was basically a sausage fest, so no sets to open. But like most things, life will reward those who are patient, and so the club started to pick up and the sets, were arriving thick and fast. A couple of the sets i flew solo and got #'s, but the one set that caused me some concern was one, that I was wing-man on.
A mate of mine, (who I'm not sure I could class as a natural, or someone without any morality, shame, or couldn't care less as so long as the target has boobs, and vagina) took the lead on this sarge - we'd seen our targets walk in as a two set, but he decided to approach, when his target was by herself. So I decided to hang back and wait until, the other would return, to disarm her. I walked casually past, when the friend returned, and got the signal by my mate that he'll need my services. So I got introduced to the set and fluffed both for a bit, then turned my focus to the friend. My mate and I had a great presence with the two girls, we were able to chop and change conversations between the two, and maintain their interest.We were talking to them for quite a while, however I couldn't hang around, I had to break the seal. So I ejected outta the set, and left the two girls and my mate with a positive vibe.
Some time later, and some # closes later. The two set, that I thought my mate had lost returned, and approached me. I didn't think i left that much of an impression on them, but I obviously I was wrong. At this point, I was under the scrutiny of my mates that I was with, the noticed what was going on. The two girls had started to dance with me, and my mate had switched to wing man, because he had read the signals of target were orientated towards me, so he took the friend and disarmed/distracted her. Here's where it becomes pear shaped - The target and I were now dancing, but for some reason I had become awkward around her??? And it showed massively. She had come up to try to dance with me, and I became so ridgid and awkward, that It completely changed my demeanor and frame, only because I got the heavy IOI's, she pinched my butt when she came over with her friend. She had mimicked my body movements, when I danced, and she kept initiating kino with me. But the reaction towards those IOI's must've looked like I was disinterested. I knew all I needed to do was extract her from the dance floor and move in for the kiss close, or even reciprocate the kino escalation with her, and kissed her on the dance floor.
I'm not sure what the hell has caused this, because afterwardsI got AMOG'd by some random who had a higher energy level than me at this time, and swept the set away from me. I was pissed at the time lookin back at the situation but I know the problem lay with me. It felt like I was back in high school again with the awkwardness around girls that first time, you know that the girl's showing you interest in you. This is what's caused me to ask, if there's such a thing as Close Anxiety. The fear of the close perhaps for some, opt to go the # close as the easy option, but as Romeo7 has said (or quoted someone), the number is just another obstacle, that needs to be over come. It just basically causing the problem to shift to a different situation/scene, eg. from the club - to your day 2 location. And the second reason, if you've read my previous field reports, it seems that this has become habitual thing - with the opportunity arising, I have failed myself, to go the distance. Has anyone, had these feelings before?
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