| The whole premise of going out last night was to cheer up a buddy of mine who has been having some probs at work. So I thought it would be a great opp. to work the field and generally have a good time with some friends of mine.
We went to this sweet hole in the wall bar called The Bronx. They had some cheap pool and really cheap drinks. I told myself I wasn't gonna drink last night, but the boys wouldn't take no for an answer lol. The crowd looked pretty thin for a Friday night, but then again it was probably due to how cold it was and some shitty weather moving in overnight. But regardless, there were definitely some good looking girls there.
So, we play some pool and I'm havin a great time, then this girl comes up and said she was supposed to be next on the list to play. I lost to my buddy and told her she could take my spot. They play, and she beats his ass, then I tell her I'll play her next. She immediately introduces herself and shakes my hand with a big smile on her face. (I'm not 100% sure if this was an IOI or not, but she didn't introduce herself to my friend beforehand.) We start playin, and the entire time she is just really really chatty with me. I compliment her shots and she does the same for me. So it gets down to the wire, just the 8 ball left, and I miss a pretty hard shot, and leave her with the W. She tells me that was one of the best games she's played ina long time, all the while maintaining the biggest shit eating grin I've seen on a girl. So, I challenged her to a rematch saying that she couldn't just leave me hangin' like that but she had to go or some shit. Also after the game, she shook my hand again and squeezed the shit out of it. I took that one as an IOI.
Not quite sure what I could have done after the initial opener and basic fluff talk during the game. Seems to be a sticking point of mine.
That girl took off and I noticed a 2 set of girls chillin over in the corner of the bar just talking amongst themselves. One of em kind of looked like a manly girl, so I thought maybe they were lezbians, but I didn't let that stop me from opening.
I walked up, sat down, and immediately went into an opinion opener. "Hey girls, quick question for you. My friend over there just got done saying that his new summer drink is gonna be Gin and Tonic. Now, I've had it before but didn't like it, and I've seen the general demographic of the people that tend to drink it. It's usually 55 year old women who are playing bridge with their girlfriends. So, I have to ask you, do you think it's ok for a guy his age to make this his drink of choice?"
It went surprisingly well right after the opener. The conversation shifted towards favorite drinks and beers. Got a couple negs off on the target based on her drink choices. I switched up the thread to what other good bars there might be nearby and I got the question, "So, you're not from around here are you?" I explained that we were out here to get my buddy out of the house and that I lived in a city about 20 minutes away from downtown. Well, turns out my target went to the same high school as I did, graduated a year after I did, and I knew her brother and all her brothers friends. Small fuckin' world lol. Complete thread change and alot of instant commonalities. I think I may have ignored the obstacle a bit to much, but she kind of disqualified herself after saying "Wow, it's like you guys have known each other for years.", in a very genuine fashion, no sarcasm lol. So I'm pretty sure I won over the obstacle.
Now, where I killed myself after thinking about why I didn't get a number close from the set, is the fact I didn't use an FTC. I completely forgot about it. I may have also talked about my opener too long(Alcohol). Probably should have disqualified myself by saying something like "Wow...it'd never work out between us, we're to similar." Or at least something along those lines.
Things I DID do right and had to give myself props on, is the use of the my little pony and gi joe routine. I had the girls cracking up at that shit big time...don't ask me how I pulled it off lol, I'm still not sure. Also my conversation skills were on point, no awkward pauses, not alot of questions asked on my part, smiles, and a general good vibe from anybody I talked to that night. It felt awesome to be able to do that. I also gotta say that I was very aware of myself, my mannerisms, tone of voice, and how I carried myself. It really does help when going into a set when you know you aren't going to fail on the opener.
Went out to another bar after that and just practiced opening some more. Got into a few good conversations and left it at that. I didn't want to get to ahead of myself. I was happy with how I did.
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