I met a girl in one of my classes 2 weeks ago. And can't get her to see me outside of school.
I'll sum it up.

I got to class early and she was the only one there sitting down. I sat a few seats away and started talking about the class and what not. After a few minutes she gets up and sits next to me (IOI). More small talk, she comments on my shirt (she liked the band on it). After class I tell her I need to buy my books at the bookstore and she should come with me; she does. We get our books and it ends up we parked in the same parking lot, so we walked to our cars together and before we went home we exchanged numbers and facebook.

Next class we find out how we both have a 2 hour break so I tell her I want coffee and we go during our break. This whole time I am getting lots of IOI's. She laughs at everything I say, hair touching, good eye contact, etc.

After class we walk to our cars and I tell her I need to buy a birthday present for my friend over the weekend so she should come to the mall with me and we will get sushi after. She says something like "i'll see what i'm doing". Come saturday she says she can't go when I ask her because her friend was in the hospital (her friend really was in the hospital, it wasn't just a way out i don't think but she still didn't make an attempt to hang out after)

next week comes and I get IOI's all week during class and after. So I ask her to hang out with me when she gets out of work, in a text. She takes a really long time to anwser and says "i'm really tired tonight, i was out late last night, but we need to study soon for our test"

should I ask her to hang out again tonight (1 day later)? or am I being to needy?
everytime I mention something about hanging out she kind of changes the frame into studying (we have plans to study in 2 days).
any help would be appreciated.

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you probably should have escalated kino on that coffee thing...

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thats what I was thinking, I built plenty of comfort but not much attraction I guess..I was having trouble with Kino and escalated very lightly. I might be in the LJBF zone already. What do you think I should do when we study? Should I try to take her somewhere after and escalate kino?

Does anyone else have any opinion on this?

You have built enough attraction. If I were you I would not bring up the topic of hanging out with her for sometime. Instead I would continue making her laugh potray that I'm having a great time in my life. I would keep my phone calls short and no messages at all. It instills the fear of rejection in women.

This would make her think why the hell haven't you asked her out again. And she might drop you hints how she is free this weekend or how there is a new movie that she wants to watch over the weekend.

Remember keep her laughing and keep your encounters brief that will make her want you more. If you could try to get good and friendly with the other women in the class; if you could keep th eothers laughing also that would make you more attractive to this girl... It has worked for me and hell ya, I have had long time good friends wanting to go out w/ me...

If you are not experienced with Kino a miss caliberation might make you come off as needy and you might just blow it. Trying Kino at bars and clubs could be more advisable.

Also, if you are not experienced then START the kino early but move slowly from one phase to the next.

Others, any comments

thanks for the advice. I'm friendly with a few of the other girls in the class, so during the week i'll start paying a lot more attention to them. I'll post back with what I notice.

One more thing...for when we study in a few days, should I tell her I can't go out after because i'm doing something already or should I just ask her to do something and see what she says? I feel like asking her to hang out again will come off as very needy.

I would say something like "Lets see, I'll call you" and then don't call up. If she asks you then tell her your friend called you for this awesome..... and what great of a time you had. The idea is to make her thing that going out with her is your decision not hers; you call the shots, she doesnt.

Just use light humor in between your study sessions. And on certain days get serious. A mix in your behaviour will make her wonder. The humor will make her want to be around you and some serious behaviour would make her miss your funny side.