| Warning! This is a fairly long post. But I NEED HELP! Thanks in advance.
Hi guys. I started reading up on the PUA things a few months ago. I have read The Game, some routines done by PUAs, and watched VH1's The Pick Up Artist. Prior to going to this free club party, I was really hyped on trying some of the stuff that I learned. Unfortunately, the night didn't really go well for me.
Let me start off by describing myself. I believe I am a fairly decent looking Asian guy as some girls have told me, had girls from other races check me out and have a good sense of fashion. I'm taller and more built than most Asian guys. I'm 5'11 and 180 lbs. The worst part about me is that I have extreme approach anxiety due to self-confidence issues from acne from before.
Okay, so here's when I got to the club. I was wearing a black AX dress shirt with a nice black blazer along with skinny jeans and black and white puma speedcats (god i love these shoes, they match with anything). I'd say I was pretty well dressed considering how some people were only wearing hoodies and tank tops.
So while I was outside on line, my energy was pretty high. I was making jokes with my friends (2 guys and 1 girl) and I wasn't obnoxiously loud but people heard me talking. Thing is right after I got into the club, I felt extremely nervous. I thought about what girls would say or think if some random guy just approached them. But soon after I bought a drink, I built up enough courage to approach my first set. So I ask my friend who is also an AFC like me to wing me. It was a two set with I'd say 2 HB7s.
CHZBABY: So what's up guys. (i know probably bad opener) How you guys doing tonight?
HB7(target): It's alright.
CHZBABY: So what's your name?
HB7: (some asian name, I couldn't hear her correctly)
CHZBABY: Alrighty then, *hi five*.
HB7: (Hi Fives with a face like WTF)
CHZBABY: So where are you from?
HB7: I'm from New Jersey.
CHZBABY: fluff talk about why a New Jersey girl was doing all the way in NYC.
CHZBABY: I heard New Jersey girls suck. They don't compare to NY girls.
HB7: noooo, (forgot what she said)
CHZBABY: So are you here with friends?
HB7: Yeah, i'm waiting for my boyfriend (in my mind im like aww fuck)
Afterwards, it was just silence. It is worth noting that I did hold her waist for a bit and then let go. She didn't really seem uncomfortable by it though. Seeing how my buddy didn't really talk to the girl. I went to talk to her. (I know probably dick move)
CHZBABY: Hi! I didn't get your name before. What's your name?
HB7(other): (mumbles name, couldn't hear her)
CHZBABY: Hi nice to meet you (then proceed to thumb wars)
She beats me. Then I said again again.
I try using my index finger and she laughs. All of a sudden,
her friend(my target) pulls her away and was like 'let's go.'
Then I was like wtf?? and just walked away.
There was another set when I opened to a 2 set and then my targets boyfriend appears. Then i'm thinking to myself, fuck that's messed up and walked away.
There was this 3 set of Latina girls (god i love latinas) where I walked by a couple times and then asked another one of my friends if he would like to approach them with me. He talked to one girl while me and this other dude stood there watching him. She said they would dance when a good song comes up.
So some time passed by and I proceed again to approach this latina girl later. She was with a friend but her friend was basically dancing by herself.
So I open her.
CHZBABY: hey what's up. what's your name?
LatinaHB8: hi my name's laura.
CHZBABY: *shakes her hand and proceeds to thumbwar
I beat her and said that she sucks at thumbwar.
She hits my arm lightly (i took that as an ioi?)
CHZBABY: So are you spanish?
LatinaHB8: yeah, I'm guatemalan and something (i couldn't hear)
NOw at this point, a reggaeton song comes on.
CHZBABY: So can you dance to reggaeton?
LatinaHB8: yeah, a little. I mean yeah.
CHZBABY: You should teach me that.
LatinaHB8: *mumbles something and walks away back to her friend who was dancing by herself.
At this point, I was like WOW wtf again??
So here are my conclusions:
I didn't really bodyrock or create any time constraints. At certain points in the conversations, I might have made it look like I was trying to hard for their attention. And I also think I didn't really smile as much as I had hoped. Another thing is that, I'm Asian and sometimes I feel wierd approaching girls other than Asian girls. So maybe that has to do with my failed approach with the Latina? I don't know. On the other hand, I think I got rid of some approach anxiety. At this point, I'm having a feeling of I don't give a fuck what people think. So my experience hasn't been all bad.
Now from the car ride back, my AFC friend told me that the thumbwar thing was stupid and that the girl was laughing at me like I was a clown. In my mind, I'm thinking, "dude at least I talked to her and did something with her." But what do you guys think? Was she really laughing at me like I was some retarded wierdo? Also, I think the latinaHB enjoyed playing it though. I don't know.
Criticism and other comments are extremely welcomed. I really want to improve my game as I just got out of a relationship like two months ago.
Thank you for reading this lengthy post again please give me comments and criticism on my approaches.
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