So this question and report has to do with what I could do for future reference. I'm bummed about it but she turned out to be an awesome friend and I don't regret that one bit.

So the story goes I open this girl at a party and end up hooking up with her and spending the rest the night and some of the morning with her. I got past the shy side of her and she opened up and had a ton of depth to her that I would never have guessed.

I talked to her about everything but still always controlled the frame and situations. She told me she had a somewhat boyfriend back home and that she was thinking about moving home because she missed home. Didn't really mention the boyfriend much but I still knew she had feelings because she had brought him up.

Anyways I took her out Friday night to a party and had a blast with her yet again. She informed me that she was going to return home for sure now and everything like that. I respected that because I was just having a good time with her and hooking up was just a big bonus..

I talked to her later and I got the vibe she felt guilty about Friday. I called her on it and she said yes she was. She didn't want to lie to her boyfriend. I was really cool with it actually because she had been completely honest with me the whole time and she had become a pretty good friend very quickly.

This has nothing to do with 'losing' this girl. Because to tell you the truth that's not what mattered with her. I've still hung out with her and nothing has changed so I know that the guilt talk and all weren't just a bullshit excuse or something like that. She was being geniune and missed home for the most part.

So don't criticize about one itis because that's not the case what so ever.. my question here is what can I do for future reference to avoid this? I know it's a unique situation with her moving but I built a ton of comfort, one step forward two back, never pushed, she was always the one to move forward.. is this just a rare occasion or do you see anything I can do better on?

Thanks

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So I'm somewhat answering my own question and adding to my post. So I have noticed by the way I answered, which was caring but not really caring if you get my point, has helped more than anything. Maybe she wasn't feeling as much comfort as I was but since then she has been advancing more than ever. I will just blow it off now and move slow with it. Thought I'd add on.

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