Hey guys,

I'm new to the boards and I would like some help in figuring out how I could have handled number closing better in this situation.

Long story short - I'm at a soup place and I see what I consider to be an HB9. I struck up a conversation and then I invite her to have lunch with me (since we were both by ourselves). She seemed pretty interested in sitting and chatting with me. Anyway, the conversation we had was ok, but I don't think I created enough attraction...It went something like:

Me: Thats cool that you're from England, I am actually planning on exploring Europe as a travel nurse.

Her: Oh, yeah there's always a need for nurses there, so you should have no problem.

Me: Yeah, I really can't wait...So, have you been exploring around NYC much since you moved here?

Her: Sort of, I haven't had much time with my job.

Me: Oh, you should definitely explore more, theres lots to see.

Actually now that I think about it, the conversation was quite boring. =/ Can anyone give me some tips on creating more attraction and being more fun conversationally?

So, by the end of our insta-date, her phone rang and she started talking to her mother who was in the hospital. I had to go back to work so I motioned her to give me a pen. I wrote my number on a napkin and tore it in half and gave her the other piece with the pen. She then wrote back (because she was on the phone) that she doesn't know her phone number and that she would text me later. So, I just said ok, smiled and left.

Well, obviously she hasn't texted me =( So my question is, what could I have done at the end of our insta-date to ensure a number close? And how do I prevent her from flaking on me? Thanks everyone!!

Well what I found out in the convo of what you wrote is that you had the bases of finding a good conversation.. Just you were stumbling around the corner for it.

Like you were talking about how she was new to the country. Notice the main word here is "New". You should have thrown all kinds of "new' ideas at her head and used that to your advantage. If this were school she would be the hott foreign exchange student that is willing to learn and experience new things and meet guys.

You kind of DHv'd her for being from Europe then you seemed to try to Dhv by what you do.. Idk.. I don't think you should've mentioned your job at all. If she asks then answer, or say something jokingly like I'm a part time male stripper and smile. If she seriously believes you and doesn't understand it's a joke, hell go for it and give her a lap dance but say you charge in food. That you hope she's a real good cook! lol

But, there's certain topics I tend to stay away from.. School, Work, and.. anything else that is tied to money or obligations, which always leads to stress. Most people when they are hanging out they wanna chill and talk about whatever's fun and relevant at the moment.

Plus, she's gotta be tired of working way too much and not having a life. So, give her a reason to call in sick from work every so often or to see you 40 minutes before work and crash over after wards. Say, all work and no play makes *whatever her name is* A dull girl.. Are you into salsa? I'm starting up classes and I need a partner I'm not taking no as an answer. (Smiling) If she says no, Say ok, You're totally fired at being my new kid sister *Jokingly* and change of thread and move back to the timebridge later.

But as of interesting things to talk about, I would see what she's about. You have to get to know her to where she's comfortable about calling or texting you. Then every now and then add a DHV.. Talk about your childhood growing up, your relationship with your family, How you wanna rock climb, Or drink the finest wine in Italy and swim the beaches of Madrid. Just say something.. anything that's interesting that you would wanna hear somebody say to you in a conversation to see who you were as a person.

You can see if they have a kid side and ask if she could be any ninja turtle which one would she be?

OR if she grew up on transformers or heman.. and just test the playing field to find commonalities.

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Hey Sprks,

Thanks for the advice, it sounds solid. =)

I think my problem here may also be that I'm starting in comfort when I should be genterating attraction. What would be a good way to build some quick attraction at the very beginning of the interation / conversation?

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Hey Sparks,

Thanks man for all your help. I really liked the line: "I can look in your eyes all day.. I can totally see myself in them (Smile)" AWESOME!! LMAO.

The lines you've been throwing are really great...how did you come up with them? More importantly, how can I learn more of these lines (is there a website ?) =)

On a side note, I just want to mention that I do realize that the concepts of push-pull, and bait/hook/reel/release are equally important as lines, if not more so. Anyway, great stuff man keep it up!

~ Shadow_NYC ~

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