I went out on Sat night in the UK on what was my first real attempt to focus on picking up a girl on a night out.
We went to a bar first, and there were two girls sat on the table besides us, at best they were 4 or 5s, so it seemed like easy meat (so to speak).
I can't recall the exact opener I used, but it didn't really go to plan.
None the less, we went to a club shortly after, and whilst at the bar I saw two lads who imo were PUAs, what's more, for young lads (early 20s at the most) they seemed pretty darn good.
Now, this may not seem strange to anyone on here, afterall, the world of PUA and The Game etc is pretty common these days in America, but in the UK it is still somewhat underground, and therefore it was quite weird to see fellow PUAs in field.
Now, I must stress, I am not 100% they were PUAs, maybe they were naturals, but they seemed dressed for it, they were talking to some hb8s, and they were playing thumb wresting with them, so all signs indicated they were.
Anyway, where was I?
Ah yes, I was at the bar, with two male friends, and I noticed a few blondes behind us. So I remembered the 3 second rule, and just went over and started chatting. Again, due to alcohol, I can't remember all the details (note to self, will not drink in future). But I was using openers based on the strange t-shirt I was wearing (i will upload photos some time).
It actually went quite well, and I found myself moving from set to set and opening them, just to blow away any cobwebs I have gathered over the years.
I am not an expert, far from it, but I must stress the importance of using some routines that are unique to you. We can all read out routines like a script, but having something that is true to you, can give it more passion.
Also, it feels kinda cool to invent your own stuff, I get a kick out of that. Yes, by all means memorise 5-10 so you have stuff to fall back on, but also try and create your own.
One such creation was based around dancing... now, I must stress that I am not a good dancer, so now I avoid doing it where possible. So I would often use this as an opener:
ME: Hey, I need your advice... I know this sounds weird, but I am a really good dancer, and when I get on the dancefloor my moves tend to attract too much attention. I need some tips or moves to make me not look so good.
HER: haha
ME: I tried doing cheesy moves from the 80s, but I even made those look good... it is so annoying. Do you know of any moves that look really bad?
HER: hmmm, try this (one girl did some weird squatting thing, another did a crap like move)
ME: yes, that is pretty bad, but to be honest, I would pull it off so well that it would become a new trend, and Justin Timberlake would end up using it in his next music video.
Now, I really need to find a way of closing this... as I kinda didn't lead it into anything else, I used it more as an opener than a routine, but I think it has routine potential (advice welcome).
I also speak Spanish, and amazingly I met a Spanish girl there. I bounced her outside the club and we spoke in Spanish for approx 15 mins, but here is the problem... and this was very much the theme for the night...
Despite the fact that she was doing KINO to me, like crazy, I didn't make a move.
I really feel that I opened some sets really well, and there were 3 or 4 occasions where I felt I could have moved it to something more serious, but I didn't.
So that is what I need to work on next time.
Also, the battery on my phone died, so I didn't even bother trying to get phone numbers.
All amateur mistakes for sure, but by writing this I am recognising them, and I won't be repeating them again.
Oh, almost forgot, I used a routine on one girl that went like this:
ME: Hey, I bet I can guess what you do for a living
Her: Go on then...
ME: (looking her up and down), hmmmm, It seems like you do something in an office (I don't know where I got this from, but my guess is that a decent % of girls do at least part of their job in an office)
Her: Wow, how did you know that?
ME: I have studied certain social based theories and experiments, I am into that sort of thing.
Her: What type of office job do i do then?
ME: (totally guessing), I would say something like accounts, secretary work or HR
Her: Oh my god, I work in HR.
ME: Yes, I can tell.
her: seriously, how could you tell?
ME: Well, one giveaway was your posture, when you leaned on the bar you bent from slightly above the hip, which suggests you sit down a lot.
Her: But I have excellent posture
ME: It is not bad, I can see you have worked on it, but the tell tale signs are still there.
Now, I realise I struck lucky here, so will have to find a way of saving the routine if she says she is an olympic runner or something.
SUMMARY
I was worried that I may get affected by nerves, but I wasn't nervous at all. I opened many sets, and invented some decent lines. My concerns are that I didn't close or attempt to close, and may come off as the quirky entertainer, dancing clown kinda guy. Also, a lot of my humour was self-depricating. Even though they could tell I was joking, I was purposely making myself the butt of the joke, and I think this is lowering my DHV.
Any thoughts or tips would be great, this is my first ever field report, so go easy
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