| Hey fellas, I just got back from a party and here is my field report. It is long as it is my first, so I can let you know where I’m at.
Background of relationship with target:
She already was attracted to me from a previous meeting at a party with heavy IOI’s and flirting, but I couldn’t do anything as she was “with” one of my good friends.
Tonight’s Field Report:
I arrived at the party. The scene was a dark room with moderate-loud music and crazy light effects. Immediate possible comfort zone was a two-seater couch, and with a small walk in between, a bonfire with long seats outside.
Smiling, Walking confidently, feeling the vibe, I spotted the target almost immediately. I got the vibe going with her friends: general, disjointed loud conversation and fun poking. I threw a couple of negs at one of her friends who was also a HB, and although she took them badly at first (I was reaction seeking, instead of just tossing them), I eventually won her over as a friend.
*the target apoliogised a couple of times for her flirting last time we met, my guess being that she didn’t want to look slutty as she was currently “seeing” an…. Alpha-kinda-AFC
In a pretty crazy set with constant interactions between almost everyone, I maintained alpha body language (over shoulder, leaning against pool table, locking in by pulling out one of the targets friends off the table and switching seats).
After receiving some subtle IOI’s from target, I slowly gave her more attention, I tried some cocky funny on her, her friends and her later said I was rude (although judging by her body language, she didn’t mind).
Along with the rest of the party we ended up sitting next to each other around the bonfire, however she was now between me and another guy (the aAFC who she had hooked up with about a week ago). He snuck his arm behind her, and I made the most of this by telling her they made a great couple etc, taking a photo until she hit me in the arm. He still had his arm around her, but her body language and attention was orientated toward me with positive energy. More IOI’s received now, some more strong.
Despite the presence of this other male obviously wanting her, I was now comfortable to leave knowing she would miss me. Eventually we ended up back inside, just the two of us. I stole her ring and she was wrestling me trying to get it off me.
My sticking point:
I kept pulling her in (while she was holding my hands trying to get the ring back) but every time our faces got somewhat close (where we both now could feel the sexual tension, with her sensing a kiss in the air), she would pretend to be more interested in the ring. I even put the ring in my pocket at one stage, and with her still all over me, gave her some gum, a subtle neg but also a hint at what was going to happen. We wrestles off the couch and ended up side by side on the bean bag, but when I brought her in (still in the context of the wrestle), she would look me in the eyes for a split second but then return to her wild chase for the ring. I did let her almost get it many times – cat string theory.
This tension eventually died, she said whatever she didn’t want the ring, and I could have fun with my self and the ring.
The rest of the night is history. I held onto the ring, in vain hope that the window of opportunity might open again, but of course it didn’t. In hindsight, my behaviour was now heavily reaction-seeking: she knew that I was stubbornly holding onto the ring so I could get her back on top of me on the couch. She even said something along those lines.
When my window of opportunity was open, it just didn’t feel right to move in and kiss her. Obviously now, I realise, that was just my non-calibrated AFC controlling me - I didn’t feel fear, it just didn’t feel “right”. Obviously next time this happens ill just go for it, but is there anything else I could have done or should have noticed that may have eluded me?
Big post, but hey, its my first field report (I’ve been studying for quite some time, but only after reading “The Game” and the “Mystery Method” have I been inspired and pushed by myself to actually use them.
I eagerly await your tough criticism, and am keen to try anything you might suggest
-Rocky Balboa
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