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PostPosted: Fri Jul 29, 2011 4:05 pm 
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I recently managed to watch David DeAngelo seminar and to get rid of many limiting beliefs and transformed from a Needy guy with no value to a real interesting challenge mindset .
I feel confident and dominant around HB7-, but a little shaky for HB8+.I tried to see what's my limiting belief that leads me to the conclusion of me not deserving attractive healthy beautiful woman with no luck.

I used to be insecure about my looks, which i managed to reduce it's impact on me, but still it's there I'm an average looking guy and i still can't convince my self that it's not about the looks and that I deserve an attractive healthy beautiful woman.

I feel it, i understand the game, i mastered alot of techniques and got familiar with them and i got success on online sarging, but have a really uncontrollable feeling (which DeAngelo said that it is FEAR and ) holding back my success in real world by destroying my body-language, my voice tone, my mood, EVERYTHING!

After reading some books and articles on body language i found out that i have a very horrible hunched posture caused by "Kyphosis" in the neck and upper back, that will not be fixed by just "standup straight and lean back".
do you guys think that this is really holding me back? otherwise i have to see a chiro.

Well i'm 6"6 tall and only 154 pounds, I'm toooo skinny, but i noticed how skinny Mystery is. but he wears clothes that will make his slim body look at it bests.
i get frustrated when i go with my best friend shopping and we try the same shirt, it looks good on him but not on me,
because he's athletic and i almost never find something that fits my size and height at the same time! i think i should go to gym and eat protein to gain weight and build muscles instead of fat.

And i tend to over prepare for everything, for example, i feel the need to have a specific answer in my mind for every possible response type of a women after something i say, specially if it's an IOI, KC and #C .
and i feel if i don't have that clever response in my head i will end up having nothing to say and look like a fool.
That's it, "I'm afraid to make a fool of my self in front of people" any way to re-frame that belief?

I really don't know if i have to be unselfconscious, or to find out what are the factors holding back my success but it will ,somehow, make me self conscious about them.

Thanks for advance.


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Trust ME man, its not about the fucking looks.
Workout get a great physique and then your head seriously doensn't even matter anymore.

It's all in the head.

I am 'really' good looking. I have people telling me i look like famous actors and shit.
But i am such a needy guy with girls. I get laid 5 times a year when i am shitfaced drunk and the other girl also shitfaced drunk. The rest of the times i get laid because i pay for it.

And trust me, i am damn good looking. It doesn't mean shit. Girls see my insecure social anxiety through my beautiful eyes.

Be happy that you don't have this terrible mental disorder which is called social anxiety. This disorder literally takes away 98% of any decent interaction with females if you want to do it sober.
I only get girls when i drink myself to shit on weekends sometimes. Because then it's a combination of i dont give a fuck + i look fucking good that gets me laid.

I am working on it though, every day. If my calculations are right in 5-6 months i should have got rid of this disorder, and be a very confident man. Now just need to stick to the plans.


Good luck

And again, just trust my word, it's about the image you radiate of yourself, female smell confident behaviour better than a man like a dog smells things better than a human.

For the posture problems: Yes be sure to fix them , if you do not they will only cause you more injuries and trouble in the future. Fix your posture problems now. Buy ( ehmmm *download*) the Assess & Correct program, so you can fix it at home. And check out the Neanderthal No More program on T-Nation.

Fix your posture first then start working out with correct form, you'll be happy you did it.

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PostPosted: Tue Aug 30, 2011 3:16 am 
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very helpful reply thank you. but i got social anxiety too :/

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