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PostPosted: Sat Aug 27, 2011 3:54 am 
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Hey guys I apologize in advance for the long post; I have a lot to say because I really am not sure what my problem is, so hopefully you all can help narrow it down for me.

So last saturday was a very big day in my life, it was the start of my very first year at college. I went into college with the goal of having unprecedented success with women and maybe even finding my finding my dream girl no matter what it took. I had been reading pua material the whole summer and felt like my time to shine had finally come. I went off to school with a great attitude, and what I felt like was great inner game. I was incredibly excited about meeting a ton of new people, and I wanted to recreate myself as an outgoing guy who everyone wanted to be friends with as opposed to the quiet reserved guy i was in high school. So my first couple days of college went great. I went around saying hi and striking up conversations with everyone I could, and I made a ton of new friends. I felt very amog doing things such as leading the guys in my doom to go meet the girls upstairs and just being a leader in general; I was the guy who initiated social interactions.

The first night I went out with some of the guys from my dorm and although I didn't try gaming any girls, I made even more friends. The second night however did not end up going as well, i believe this is where things started to go downhill for me. At my college, it is very difficult to get into a frat party if you are a guy. Usually you either have to know people, or there has to be a 2:1 girl to guy ratio if you want to get let in. So in hopes of impressing the guys at the frat i was going to (I'm trying to join a frat later to DHV) i went out with just myself and 6 girls. on the way there I'm just feeling like the man, we see some other guys i say whats up and they end up coming with us to the party. so we get to the door and theres this huge mob of people. Turns out the douche bags at the door were only letting their friends and good looking girls in. They let three of the girls i was with in, but the rest of us were stuck. so I'm waiting outside for like 40 minutes, finally i go back to the door, somehow i got to introduce myself to the president of the frat who was outside, we had a brief conversation and he's like i tell you what man you wait 5 more minutes and ill let you in so I'm thinking yeah whatever but after 5 minutes when they have closed off the doors to everyone he's like "I'm a man of my word come on in bro"
so I'm like fuck yeah and enter the frat party which is the definition of clusterfuck. There were literally 500 people in this house...it took like 10 minutes to walk up the stairs to where the dance floor was. So I'm just by myself in this party, i don't really know anyone except the girls i came with so i talked to them for a bit, but i really wanted to socialize and meet people. The music was so loud at this party though that you had to yell in someones ear for them to hear you. So i think between that and the vast number of people i just lost my cool or something because the entire night i just felt socially retarded. I didnt meet anyone, spent the majority of the time walking around by myself...i just didn't know how to handle myself there. I asked one girl to dance like an afc and after she said no i was just like fuck this and walked home by myself.

After the party i caught some kind of cold, so the next few days i was feeling pretty out of it, and although i did do some socializing and met new people, i definitely was not the stud i was when i first got here. Last night me and some guys in the dorm tried to organize a movie night and when no girls showed up I think that really sent me some bad vibes. Tonight, i got invited to a frat party from this one senior guy i met and really hit it off with (not to sound gay) the first night i was here. So I invited one of my less afc friends from my dorm with the intention of finding some girls to go with us and having a great time. When my "friend" told me at the last minute that he decided to go somewhere else and would meet up with me later I just got really discouraged and headed back to my dorm where I now write this post.

Right now i just feel totally out of it, i can't even really think straight and I'm not even sure what my problem is. I don't feel motivated to do much of anything, even logging onto this website and writing this post didnt seem like it was worth it to me. I feel like a totally different person now than i did a week ago when I got here and i would really like to return to the state of mind i had then but i'm really not sure how. I feel like everything i've been trying to teach myself has gone to waste because i seldom give myself the opportunity to apply it and when i do finally get the chance i blow it and pussy out or do something afc.

Along with the possibilities i listed earlier, i have come up with a few other factors as to why this might have happened. First, i think i might be over thinking the pua material and thus confusing myself. When the guys in my first thread (i would post a link but i don't have enough posts, the thread is titled "college game") told me that college game was different than what i was used to, i began to question everything i had learned. I watched the series of videos from pua Braddock on college game and tried my best to follow his advice when he says not to game any girl until you are familiar with each other, but after hearing this i am unsure about what to do at frat parties and stuff where I know very few people.

I feel like i am building a lot of negative momentum which i would really like to reverse and get back on the right track. I have a frat party to go to tomorrow night where i will know at least 20 people, so i feel like that will be a good opportunity to get myself back on the right track, i just need all the help i can get from you guys because i am not sure how to correct my problems.

Sorry for how all over the place this post is...that is just how my mind is right now. If i left out any important details or you all have any other questions feel free to ask, i'll be standing by and i am looking for any piece of advice i can get. Thanks in advance guys.


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PostPosted: Sat Aug 27, 2011 5:12 am 
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yea definitely college game is different from gaming girls outside your college.. and some of the things that you have learnt may get you wrong results.. I heard that "Conquer your campus" is a good book about college game ( i myself have not read it) but you should try it out..

I am in college too.. when i joined in college i was in a fucked up situation where i was madly in "love" with a girl from my school.. and she LJBFed me.. I was too immature and i felt dead.. So as a result when i joined college i was like a " BELOW AVERAGE VERY FRUSTRATED CHUMP" and I missed out all the great opportunities..
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I feel like everything i've been trying to teach myself has gone to waste because i seldom give myself the opportunity to apply it and when i do finally get the chance i blow it and pussy out or do something afc.
Whenever something negative happens to you "reframe" it as something positive. It might be difficult at first but this is very important..
"The optimist sees opportunity in every danger; the pessimist sees danger in every opportunity."

And whenever you pussy out just say to yourself
"10 years from now you will have more regret from the things you didnt do then the things you did."

Hope this helps.


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