A guy on the forum asked the question if getting big in the gym make you alpha?

I want to answer that question with this post.

A lot of people think that if you are big physicly, that you are big autmaticly in ever area of your life.

It's not like this.

Let's get deep in this.

Try to answer this question.

What is power?

In pysics power is mass x speed = power.

So physical power can be measured with muscles.

But there are really three types of power when we're talking about people.

1. PHYSICAL
2. EMOTIONAL
3. INTELECTUAL

1. Physical power is when a guy is phsicly powerful. So this means hitting the gym and getting those abbs and biceps big and looking like from a commercial for Orbitrek.

2. Emotional power is the power you have when a woman rejects you and you don't feel insulted, thrown back or angry. Rather you feel calm and you think this is funny. You really laugh ( honest laugh not the "I'm actually bothered by this bitch" laugh ) and move on.

3. Logical power is the power you have with your brain. This includes your decision power, your ability to handle situations and understand complex things.

If you only have one power, you can't be really alpha. A real alpha has all three. And when he has it, you don't feel frightened by his presence, rather, you feel calmness and you feel like you can trust this guy.

Whenever you feel discomfort with a huge guy know that he doesn't have power in all areas.

What's the core of this?

It's a BASE of SAFETY and SECURITY.

What do I mean by that?

It is in feeling safe and secure all the time. Even if a 7 feet guy who looks like a gorilla starts harrasing you you stay calm and assured in your ability to defend yourself ( knife, gun, ) without any hate attached, but really a calm feeling that you will do whatever it takes to defend your life he will feel it. He will sense your calmness and power and will start to doubt himself.

He will feel it, every body in the room will feel it and women will feel it.

A base of safety and security is also in three parts.

1. Physcial

This means you feel safe in your physical world. Maybe when walking down the street you don't feel completely safe. Or when you go in the club you don't feel safe in the club. You might be affraid somebody hurting you. If you feel that way, women will feel it too. So you have to build a base of safety and security to feel safe where ever you are. This could mean getting a weapon (gun, knife- I don't recommend doing this because it could mean more harm than good) or getting into a marshall arts club and learning some basis of self defense (I really recommend this option, a lot of guys feel much comfortable in their skin when they know that they can defend themselves ).

You can also build a base of safety and security by making a private place that you know is only yours. Like your room, where you know you are completely safe there.

2. Emotional

This means having that feeling inside of you that you can handle any rejection, any attack on your self with ease. With not much emotion. That it will not get to you.

You develop this by exposing yourself and doing things you are affraid the most. Proving to yourself if you will, that you can handle it no matter how bad it seems. If you're scared of rejection knowing that you can handle it.

The way to build your base of safety and security is by having a journal maybe where you can writte down your true feeling in a complete safe manner and really open yourself inside. Also you can build it by having a friend that you can tell everything to him and knowing that he woun't make fun of you or betray your trust.

You need to feel like you have somewhere to fall back on no matter how bad. If you get rejected, where are you going to go and be real about how you feel?

3. Logical

Logical base of safety and security means you have some logical decisions. Maybe about what is right or wrong, maybe how far are you going to go before you quit and leave the girl, maybe what it is you want with a girl (one night sex or you want a girlfriend) etc.

Maybe it's a decision you made about what youre going to do. For me, I made a decision that I'll become good with women, I knew exactly what I wanted to accomplish and didn't quit untill I succeded no matter how bad it was.

When I got rejected really bad, I would at first lose my composure, even got angry at the girl and maybe resented her. But eventually, because I persisted (intelligently) I got to a point where rejection would no longer bother me and even if a girl started rejecting me I would cut her off with "Yea you're going to do your rejection thing later, listen to this".. and I would tell her what I wanted to say, not affected by her try to reject me. And soon after girls would feel that they can't affect me by rejecting me and soon I never got rejected.

I stuck with my goal because my logical base of security was my decision that I will become good at this no matter what. And soon I did.


So this is how real alpha is made, and this is who real alpha is.

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I think the concept of alpha is truly useless when it comes to picking up women. Not because it isn't relevant for some, but it is not relevant to all men. If all men could be alphas then there would be 3 billion countries on this Earth instead of 196. I've seen men without this confidence and machismo; pull more women then even the guy with super confidence and a high sense of machismo. Women don't care for that alpha shit either. They want a man who is in touch with himself. Being in touch with your self doesn't always equal being an alpha it means being a man. And I think people the two mixed up.

A man is a person who can handle his responsibilities by him self and does not need the support of others to accomplish his goals. It is the same principle with a woman.

An alpha male is someone who goes beyond his personal responsibilities and desires and assumes the responsibilities and desires of other individuals. In other words they take the burden of other people so that those people don't have to deal with it. In return those people agree by a sort of social pact that the alpha male, woman, or whoever, has the right to impose an agenda on the group so long as it is an agenda the group is comfortable with.

In other words, the alpha male goes beyond him self and leads others into their responsibilities. The man is much less and handles him self before he worries about others.

You don't need to be an alpha male to be a good man. And I think that concept needs to die in this community in order for this community to truly grow. But Love Systems and RSD wouldn't be able to sale their products if people didn't all attempt to be alphas. I guess it’s more about selling products then genuinely helping out your fellow man. They want to confuse and trick every man into thinking he needs to do everything more than be him self and comfortable with who he is.

Just my two cents on the situation.

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