Why Men Struggle With Women (Bjohns Mini Course - Part 1)

Men are outsmarted in the dating game as a whole. Women know how to manipulate men and get what they want from them. Manipulation might be an unfavorable word, but that’s exactly what it is nowadays. If you read any female oriented magazine, you will find articles that give advice to women on how to handle men in different situations.

Manipulation is not just limited to women. Men, even those with no social training, manipulate women. The “nice guy” can be seen sucking up to a woman and letting her tramp all over him so to speak. Why? So the woman will see what a great, caring guy he is and will want to date him.
“Players” are also well known manipulators. They’ve learned some social skills that get women emotionally invested in them. However, because the player only looks out for himself and his needs, the potential for serious relationships vanish.

Men struggle with women because they fall into the category of a nice guy or a player. While the player has casual sex, he is not any better off than the nice guy in my opinion. The worst part about this situation is that men often let pride prevent their progress. Although they aren’t getting their needs met by women, they refuse to seek instruction.

Anything you ever want to get good at requires correct instruction and endless practice. The community exists in order to help provide social instruction to men, and it’s up to the men to practice the material presented.

Another reason men struggle with women is because they have limiting beliefs on what is truly possible. With the correct social training and experience, men can have outrageous, yet successful, encounters with women. Some men truly live the ultimate social life. They are a “good guy”. They are nice enough to be pleasant, but just enough challenge to be attractive. They know the fine balance between nice guys, players, and jerks. They take the attractive qualities from each category of men and minimize their own faults.

The result is a man who is attractive to almost any woman. Every woman is different, but all respond to a select number of traits that any man can learn to display.

To deal with limiting beliefs, I urge you to keep an open mind and experiment with new ideas. Once you achieve a level of success you find attractive, you will begin to naturally change your beliefs with women and dating.

Action Step

Today silently acknowledge that you need correct social training and practice to get great with women. Acknowledge that you have to do something different than what you’re doing if you hope to achieve different results. Make today the day you finally decide to change yourself into a better man, which naturally will change your interactions with women. Continuing being yourself, but start developing your best self!