| Hey birds, one hell of a problem we all have to go through whether PUA or AFC, is forgetting the girl we wantED.
One of the most annoying parts of the process of being with a girl, or just having something going on, or even just having a one itis crush and never any further is according to me forgetting the girl.
Let me start by saying you cannot "forget" the girl by Thinking her away. I have learnt that the hard way: months of trying and over 10 pages of self written notes.
As De'angelo says - "attraction isn't a choice" which we can all have to agree with unfortunately.
However you can always HELP the process of getting the terror out of your mind.
ONE-ITIS First, let me tell you how i lost my first real one itis. Its simple, i moved to the other side of the globe, i had a lot of contact with my upcoming one-itis and i didn't see her for the rest of my life. As you can see, next problem after another which is sad, and you therefore have to eliminate your one-itis thought processes. That I'm not gonna tell you about here however the key sentence to not getting them is: "Don't get too attached to the outcome of being with her"
Generally you can't forget girls you see every day. It sucks for you but i'm pretty sure we all been through it more than or one time. if she goes to your school, is a co-worker, or whatever: you see her every day. The reason why you can't forget her, is because you are attracted and you never get a break of thinking about her when your thoughts get updated every time you see her.
You now stand between two choices (if you know that you WANT to forget her): let time pass as a true AFC and forget her that way, or help your immune system get the virus out of your mind.
Yes you choose to not be AFC and help her outta the mind of yours. You have a job and can't move from LA to Beijing just because of one bitchass. Well this is how you help her get out. Enjoy.
Realize that she is NOT into you.
We have to do this the hardest way. Realizing she isn't into you simply has to be done. Whether you actually think she is into you or not you agreed that you want to forget her and find a hotter girl than her. You HAVE to tell yourself that she likes another guy and NOT you. If you unfortunately keep telling yourself that she probably really does like you, you keep thinking about her which is the opposite of what you want.
Do not look at or for her IOI's.
You obviously know now that she doesn't like you, and just because she looks you in the eyes for 3 seconds, does not mean that she likes you and shows some IOI's here and there. She might have been in her own thoughts, she might play games with you and not you with her. You might actually even be her testbunny while you should be testing your newly learned things at or on her.
Block all community
I'm a personal hater of facebook and texting though everybody at my age uses and do it (I'm 16). But you have to block all the community at Facebook, Myspace, Twitter and whatever you have. Even texting. What you do is you "remove from news feed" on facebook and do the same on myspace if possible. Do not remove her as a friend, thats total AFC but just from News Feed. Also remove her friends and everybody you know that communicates with her on that page. Maybe you should even give the homepage a break. What is does to you, is trying to make her jealous by hitting on other girls, getting HVD comments from other girls etc. and all that does to you is THINKING YOU MAKE HER JEALOUS. Totally wrong and you should not be thinking of her when you forget her, even if its about jealousy. You will probably even get jealous once you check her profile so don't check her profile. Make a group in the chat and call it "unnamed fortunate category" and put her in it, and go forever offline in that group.
If you have her phone number feel free to delete.
Never talk about her
If you still foolishly think she likes you, you will be happy to tell your friends about how annoying you think she is because she is not showing any interest. You will be even happier to hear from your friends that she likes you, and that they can tell by the way shes acting when shes around you (which is what you'd like to hear). This shouldn't be hard to remember: fuck her, don't waste your time talking about her.
Go and sarge!!
You have to know that there are others out there, and one of the best working methods to forgetting one of them, is to go sarging and try something new. Be a total failure and try new things and have a laugh. Get some numbers and call them, fuck them and "break their hearts". Do whatever you want with other girls but don't think of her. Don't think you do this to make her jealous.
Don't think of her in other cases
You go to your job or school. Congratulations you have hotness in you and wanna use it. You put some blue American Crew in your hair and look good!! But you have to remember to not do this in order to impress her. Do not think of her when you set your hair, pick your clothes in the morning, or buy new shit.
Do things people consider odd
For example sit in a comfortable way and look like a retard. You know she thinks you are weird as well as a lot of other people but its good to forget her to not care about what she thinks of you and just hope its bad.
FHYM: Force her out of your mind
This one is a preeety important detail. Have something to replace her with when she suddenly pops up in your mind such as a lego castle or another girl you know and want in bed next Friday. What you do is simple... you think of her in the middle of a class, BAM you think of that other HB9 you just met and totally dig. Or BAM you think of that totally sick lego castle that is completely useless to you but can you laugh about. Also try to listen to the teacher if in class because if you try to think of things instead of her it will eventually lead back to her.
The classic
Throw her shit out. Throw the pictures of her in the back of wherever you keep your clothes and guard that door as if it was your big collection of great porn links that were hidden behind it. Throw whatever is hers in there if you have anything.
Get another problem
Go out there and be a total badass and cause some other problems. Get yourself into some annoying shit and plan a month ahead to see your grandma or parents which you obviously don't want to. Now that you have another shitty and annoying problem that fills your brain out and you think about that a lot too.
Another great example with same effect is to get a hobby. Go skate, go learn BMX, go be totally badass and pro with girls.
Voila and before you know it she is out of your mind as long as you do what i just told you, every single one.
NICE now we know what to do!!!
But lemme give you an example where its a Lose-Lose for you if you follow some steps but not all. You get yourself in a problem because you completely trash your friends GF's shoe collection however your friend still likes to talk about the girl you like.. you still stalk her on facebook once in a while and still jerk off with her in mind. Now your friends GF sorta hates you and you still think of her the big virus in your mind. Its obviously not how its supposed to be. You can just fail like that AFC or you can do some of this and fail more than that AFC but what person would suck this hard at forgetting someone????!!!!!
Last edited by T0BY on Sat Mar 12, 2011 1:02 am, edited 6 times in total.
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