Hey guys, I recently wrote a short article for ezine, which briefly discusses social dynamics in a nutshell for male female attraction. Thought I would share!

My friend recently asked, "Why can't I be myself? Why can't I be forward and tell her how I really feel?" I replied, "You can! But there is a catch." The cat and mouse game of male and female social dynamics will always be alive. For example, imagine meeting an attractive woman at the park. Imagine that the two of you are having a great conversation. She is open to your advances. But then, out of the blue you ask, "Want to have sex?" You can imagine receiving a prompt slap in the face. Poof! She's gone. If you had followed "the rules" by using proper escalation and closing techniques, while also posing the question less directly, you would receive a much different response.

I explained to my friend that you should always be yourself, but we are playing a game (in some sense of the word). The rules of the game must be abided by. Think of it as a football game at first. You can use all of your skills, your athleticism, and your knowledge to score a touchdown, but you can never run for a touchdown out of bounds. Similarly, you can use your individuality, your charm, and your social skills to get the girl, but you have to follow the rules of the game. Once you have mastered them, they should no longer appear to be rules at all, but secondary elements of your social disposition.

But please do not think there is a rule book out there listing these rules because you will never find one. The rules are not rules in the classical sense. They are techniques for building attraction. Much like in the movie The Matrix, some rules can be bent and others broken. There is no one right way to move forward. Think of the golfer Jim Furyk. He has one of the most unconventional swings in the sport and continues to play at the top of the leader boards.

So if you are going to succeed with women, you need to utilize this information. Arm yourself with this newfound knowledge, and prepare to play your best ball. Acquire the tools of the trade, but maintain your own person. Make these rules adapt to you, as you adapt to them. Realize that at the end of the day, we are all human, with feelings, emotions, needs, wants, and desires. I look at it this way: the more we understand the game, the easier it is to escape it. The original social interaction up to the point of relationship is where these rules are most relevant. The rules you learn will allow you to connect with the women more so than ever before. Use the game to escape the game because no one likes playing games ; ).


Ben Reed AKA Breednow

www.breednowornever.com

Breednow-or-never (Dating Advice For Smart Men)

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Ben Reed is a life coach and social dynamics expert originating out of Philadelphia, PA.
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