I have chronic depression which stemmed from extreme bullying in primary school and a few very traumatic incidents since then and though I manage to control it or at least hide most of the time, i sometimes get bouts of it which completely ruin my frame of mind. I don't blame people for my depression nor do i take it out on people, but it can put me in a very low mood where i feel detached from myself and have very little confidence , which isn't normally how i present myself but fucks up my game at times when i really don't want it to. I'm otherwise a very positive person with good game and good conversational and rapport-building ability, that's what's so frustrating. Any advice?

This was written as a response to something different so you may have to switch out some of the examples for something more practical for you. the important part is all still there though.

When you are hurting about something like that it is generally not the actual actions that are still hurting you. They are in fact over as the moment has passed. The pain you are suffering from right now is probably from all the "What Ifs" in your head right now.

What if I deserved it?
What if I am worthless?
What if I am not as good as the other guys?

Do any of these sound familiar?

The key to fixing this problem is actively reprogramming your brain to weed out these "negative self talk" patterns.

I borrowed this exercise from David D in "Double Your Dating" and have used it with extremely positive results.

Write down the negative "What Ifs" that you say to yourself on a regular basis.

Under each of these right three "positive self talk" options to replace them.

Negative Self Talk

"What if I am not as good as the other guys?"

Positive Self Talk
"What if she just didn't feel worthy of me and found solace in these lesser men"
"What if I just wasn't good enough at showing the true me to her? I will do better next time.?"
"What if this had nothing to do with me and her actions are a product of her childhood."

The important thing is that you catch yourself in the Negative and actively replace it with the Positive on a consistent basis! The fact is that you are making up a story no matter what you say in your head (roughly quoted from Ekhart Tolle)
With NSS you are going to suffer and feel hopeless to do anything about the situation because you have resigned to accepting this as "your fault" and/or stripped yourself of the power to change the outcome.

With PSS you will retake control and maintain confidence. It will inspire you to be an "on purpose person" and have a profound impact on your quality of life.

THIS METHOD ALONE ELEVATED MY CAREER/PUA/AND GOT ME OVER MY EX FIANCÉE.

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