I'm going through the hands down hardest time of my life. I won't sit here and bitch because I'm not one to put my burdens on other people so I'll get to the point. Lately I've been getting more and more insecure and don't know what to do about it.

Example: I made my girlfriend of over a year a scrapbook for Christmas, her best friend (guy, in the Navy, makes over 100 grand a year) bought her a $450 tv and I let my jealousy get the best of me and felt bad about my own present. We got in a fight about it and she said I'm "being a little bitch" about it.

I'm like that all the time and have absolutely no idea how to get over this. Since I've been dating this girl I've suddenly become soft and not as much of a man anymore.

What the hell do I do?

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-Bedrock

"The society that separates scholars from its warriors will have its thinking done by cowards and its fighting done by fools." - Thucydides

Seize the day with love

Sometimes you succeed, and sometimes you learn.

When shes out get a six pack of beer watch the TV and count $450 dollars thats in your wallet.Dont give what you dont have to give, you gave a scrapbook leave it at that dont give a scrap book that has to beat other presents or has emotions you need returned inside it.
Always remember your real value so hopefully its more than a t.v show her the value some other girl would get the calm,self assured,confident,humble,leader who is unmoved by the tide of life.
Your a trained pua you got her and its lasted over a year so you have all you need just bring those calm attractive qualities out no matter what curveballs life throws your way.

I learned the hard way that buying women expensive presents means absolutely nothing in the long term. I spent a lot of money on my ex gf over the 2 years we were together and she still wanted to end it. So don't sweat about that particular incident because it won't make a difference to what she already thinks of him. You getting jealous is far more damaging. It makes you look weak and needy. All I can say is try and think back to how you used to behave just before you met her, that's what got her attracted to you in the first place and I'm willing to bet you felt like a man back then.

It's time to be selfish. Don't attach yourself to anything that happens to her. Focus on whatever makes you happy, and from the sound of it, she's not really making you happy right now.

Definitely don't display any jealous behavior. Jealousy has a snow-ball effect. You get jealous once and you start to think of all of the other things that make you jealous and then you just explode. I've been there.

You have to take back the pants. This means making decisions and sticking with it. If she asks you "what do you want to eat tonight?" don't respond with "I don't know, what do you want to eat?" Always be suggesting. This puts you in control. Say "Let's go eat this" or "Let's go do that." If she objects, then suggest something else. Of course, don't be abusive about it, but make sure you're calling the shots.

If you don't, your control of the relationship is eventually going to slip from 100% to 95% to 85% and so on. Stop the bleeding because when you can't control the relationship, she will find someone else who will.

Hope this helps!

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Andy Yang
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