Behold, enlightenment.

Yes, you must do as the title tells you. You must think in the way you feel comfortable. You must do what you feel comfortable doing. You must "be yourself"; talk about what you wish, remain true to all of your values, your morals, your beliefs, your thoughts.

But do not act in the fashion in which you act, if you really have so much trouble that you are seeking the aid of "pick up artists" on an Internet forum.

Instead, act the way they act. Yes, those dreaded yet worshipped "alpha males", who are masculine and strong. Say what you wish, talk about math if you are passionate about it, to women, to other men, but by God change the way you say things. Say things as if it is the best thing you have ever said, as if it is every reason to be confident, as if it is "in", cool, fashionable, and if it makes you all the more masculine. Because then, it will.

Let me convey to you how I had come to conceiving this idea. It had been through the observation of my best friend. She acts as though she is Paris Hilton or Lindsay Lohan, preparing a cake of make-up on her face, posing everywhere as though she is a model, speaking through the mouth of the stereotypical 'dumb blonde', and she has even expressed to me her recognition of this. I find this way of acting quite 'poser', and I would imagine any crazily self-conscious adolescent to act as such. However, she loves history and chemistry and biology. She talks to people of the French Revolution, of the inefficiency of bureaucracies, of the properties of metals and their uses in this world. She has no trouble making friends, or communicating with anyone, in any way. And she is friends with me, who is shy, and rather nerdy, and trying to be somebody in this world. I asked her how she can possibly be who she is, and she replied that she strongly believed without any uncertainty that everything she did was commendable, even when others looked down on her in her presence, although no-one really does anymore simply because of the confidence she constantly exudes. Another example of such people is an acquaintance of mine who attracts females because he is confident, speaks in a low and loud voice, and laughs a lot; they laugh at all of his idiotic and unintelligent jokes, while when I make jokes of a similar kind they are repulsed by me. I may also say that I am better looking than he; he wears glasses and has an unappealing and rather average-looking face structure and complexion. He also has no trouble communicating with anyone, and is quite the life of the party.

Now, I wondered, what of the male equivalent of my sister? Perhaps my acquaintance, discussed just above, would be a worthy candidate. The charm of the confidence that derives from such men indeed attracts many females to a surprising degree.

This is the key. Do be yourself. Conform to the idealistic image of masculinity portrayed by the media of our society, but at the same time keep your values, your thoughts, your interests.

For once one believes that what one does, says and thinks is cool, then everything one does, says and thinks will be cool. In order to believe as such, one must do what I have stated above, though this area is indeed very vague, as there are different kinds of fashion or 'cool' that appeal to different groups of people.