How do you get your mind off problems and just get in the mindset of just having fun?

I'm always worried about what others will think and what the negitive consequences of things that i want to do would be and end up not doing them

how do you lose this mental block and actually start doing things to make YOU happy, to just enjoy life?

Thanks in advance - Florg

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You know what I just asked something very similiar in a different forum. However, I decided this is something you need to find on your own! Don't react to others. Act do not react.

hi dude. had the same problem. the answer is to surround yourself with lower social status people untill you get your confidence. at high school at the moment and i tried to talk to the 'cool' people to begin with. made some good progress, but didnt have the balls to make friends because i was scared of getting shot down when i opened my mouth. i didnt do anything stupid in case it came back and bit me in the ass. so i became realy boring. recently i started hanging out with the 'nerds' and im much happier. i have more in common with these guys and im not scared of what they think of me. that pale 5 stone kid in the corner isnt going to fight me. the fat kid isnt going to want to get in a word war. the guy with no friends is in no place to judge me. so that meens i can just be myself. i act nice to these guys because they are good people. but i know i can let loose a few times and be more adventurous at times, because at the end of the day they arent going to do anything to make me feel bad.

At first i felt concious hanging out with people like that but they arent bad people. they are more balanced, fun people than the people i was associating with before. we go out more and do stuff more offten. have a good laugh. and ive noticed they arent as bad as i thought. they arent nerds because they arent socialy accepted. THEY chose not to talk to the cool people because they have more fun together.

so just take yourself to a lower pressure situation. i was worried what people would think if i associated with these people. but in 3 weeks i have made more friends and gone out more than i did in 6 months before because i have the confidence to put myself out there. in 3 weeks i have made new friends, got in better shape, upped my grades at HS and started talking to 3 girls. one a solid 8/10 who i hope to get in the sack.

just do it man. forget social pressure and just associate with people more like you. once you start making friends you will feel more confident and outgoing. the rest will follow. im not suggesting you dont have friends. just that you should make more that aren't as judgmental of you.

do it more, do the things that make u have some FUN.

Dude if you dont like to talk to strangers then STOP talking to strangers, but if u feel like u like talking to people but you are unsure what the outcome will be then just do it and do it and do it again till its natural.

If you dont like clubs, DONT GO TO CLUBS, if you like libraries then go there, there are girls too in libraries.

Just do the things u like stop thinking that u will be succesfull or happy just by knowing how picking up women, thats bullshit i know lots of guys that are good at women and still feel like they have a crap life.

If u like talking to people but are afraid just do it and do it, but if you dont, focus on something else, be good at what u like and u will get girls too because you will be so fucking amazing at what u do, that more atractive thanl NLP, pick up lines, hypnosis bullshit because actually you are LIVING ur life at the best than fakin it.