This thought occured to me last night because me and two of my friends managed to convince seven girls to come back to my place for some "drinks". This btw was not in a bar or anything, one of my friends said hi to a girl on the street that he met the night before while drunk at McDonalds.

Basically, most of the girls were not very hot but there was one or two so it warrented them coming back. Naturally, I was trying to get the best one, who was like a 7 but this is a lot harder when you are directly competing with friends because I dont want to insult them or anything, and they themselves are not too bad with women.

Long story short, one girl told me that I was quite "mean" whatever the means, I often get comments that I am not modest or something similar. While the hot girl seemed interested in me for a while towards the end of the night she simply went for to my friend and after 5 minutes asked him number. HE started conversation with the typical afc way and was complimenting her all night, telling her she was pretty while I negged her pretty much as soon as I met her. One girl seemed into all of us and two of the kinda ugly girls were all over me.

So, do I seem like too much of a jerk/am I too arrogant and should I bother changing this? And before this comes into anyones head my friend that got the HB is not better looking then me, in fact I am in considerably better shape then him.

Here are my definitions of the following words:

ARROGANT: some one who constantly acts or tries to make himself seem better then others. Also, someone who think they are better or somehow superior to the rest of the human race

CONFIDENT: someone who think highly of themselves and is confident of their own abilities

COCKY: someone who through a playful manner conveys a sense of domminance over others and highlights his own possitive characteristics without directly bragging.

So I consider myself Confident and sometimes cocky, generally in front of women. I dont think Im arrogant because I trully dont believe I am better then anyone, I consider every individual equal to me, for the same reasons I refuse to accept beta status to anyone. I am however confident im my own abilities to the extent that people think I come across as arrogant, how do I change this? Should I even bother? Do other people here have similar problems?