Ok guys,

there is something that is on my mind for quite some time now. That is the idea, that most of you have NO IDEA what it means to be a confident, masculine, mature man.

Somehow, most of you guys have in your mind, that being alfa means..

"I AM THE MAN"
"I AM THE MAIN MOTHERFUCKA AND THERE AIN´T NOBODY FUCKIN´ WITH ME"

That ain´t the case most of the time.

Infact, that ain´t the case NEVER.

There is something, ONE quality that makes you look in charge, makes you look the man, makes you look masculine and confident and not like a scared little bitch.

I really feel for you guys, because I was in the same place not so long ago.

And there was nobody who could teach me anything besides ussual pick-up bullshit like "BE ALFA" and "OWN YOUR REALITY"

I was always thinking to myself, what the f*** does that mean?

So that resultet in me trying to look cool when I went out. And that didn´t end ok..

I started behaving not like an alfa male, but like a spoiled little kid who is screaming all arround how bad he is.. but my insecurities were just leaking out of me and EVERYBODY could see it..

Now how did I turn that arround?

Well it didnt happen for me untill I really pushed everything out of my head and stopped reading a bunch of pick-up material and actually went out and did what I WANTED TO DO.

When I saw a girl I like, I went there and said.. Hi, whats up. And I was completely OK with it.. and guess what.. so was she.

So that is how my success started, and now I have no problems with women anymore..

I can approach anybody and I get comments all the time saying.. Wow you really seem like YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE DOING.

And that is my secret guys.

Now I am going to tell you what I never heard nobody say in any pick up material.

That is, how to be really alfa.

The underlying quality that people want to feel that you have, without you saying it or doing anything.

And here it is

When people first meet you, they want to feel, that you can TAKE CARE OF THINGS.

Let me repeat that. They want to know, that you know how to TAKE CARE OF THINGS.

Now what does that mean?

There is probably an area of your life that you are really good at. Maybe its skate boarding, maybe its mathematics, maybe its driving, maybe its cooking, maybe its sailing, maybe its you are really good at teaching somebody.

Anything..

Now, how do you feel when you do these things?

You feel CONFIDENT.

Confidence means, that you will take care of things, no matter what.

Confidence means, that you BELIEVE in your ability to do things.

Lets say for example, that you are really good at cooking. Now, while you are in YOUR kitchen, you have your tools there. You know your way arround the kitchen and you are IN CHARGE of the situation.

You feel very confident that you know how to preprare a delicious dish that everybody will enjoy. You feel proud of yourself and your behaviour is almost a bit arrogant. Thats how confident you feel.

That doesnt mean that you are screaming all arround how great you are.

It means that you KNOW DEEP DOWN in your heart, that you know what you are doing.

You are CALM in your BELIEF that you know what you are doing.

And no matter what happens in the kitchen, you know deep down, that YOU WILL TAKE CARE OF THINGS.

And when you do that, than you will hear people say that you are CAPABLE.

In order to develop confidence in life, you need to have a BELIEF, that NO MATTER WHAT, you will TAKE CARE OF THINGS.

And the feeling that people want to have about you when they meet you, is that you are CAPABLE.

And thats it.

If you are interested in how to get from where you DONT FEEL CAPABLE to the point WHERE YOU KNOW THAT NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS YOU WILL TAKE CARE OF THINGS, stay tune as I will be releasing a second part and in it, I will desribe how exactly you do that.

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Great post filled to the brim with truth, but:

(deep breath)

A-L-P-H-A!

Alfas are cars. This has been bugging the crap out of me.

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Excellent post, can't wait for the rest

Quite true, this is what I am myself trying to do. I take inspiration from past great alphas and try to take on some of their characteristics. It means eliminating the insecurities, even if slowly but surely until you ARE sure of yourself.

Interesting stuff OP. But it seems like you are dragging this out. You could of said all this stuff in 2 paragraphs easily.

The main point is: 'To be alpha you must have abilities and be confident in those abilities'. See? One sentence.

Lets just get to the point!

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I actually thought it was funny.

Yo guys heres how to be alfa step 1. do pushups step 2. talk loud step 3. be asshole
ok there you go guys thats how to be alfa now go out there and get some

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Abilities are not a necessity. Confident means FAITH that you will take care of things no matter what happens. That doesnt include to actually have abilities

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I think this guy got some serious anger issues. :/ You're the only member I witnessed so far that actually gives me the chills.

But I do agree with lots of things you had to say.

I just hope you don't go hurting anybody.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_projection

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What???

lol

You hit on some good stuff here. I went out with one our local guys this last weekend. Besides being several years younger than me he had a deep-seated sense that he was out to prove something. He entered sets like a battering ram, forcing himself into the situation. While he did successfully work himself into favor with a few girls, he generally left a trail of destruction in his path. After that night I had a lot of the same thoughts you've expressed here.

Alpha doesn't mean you have to be an asshole. Alpha just means you're in charge and aren't afraid to stay that way. If you yield for a moment, it's only because you've allowed it to be this way for a sense balance and intimacy. Your inner-calm is amazingly resonate with people. Being comfortable in your own skin, your decisions, your thoughts and processes in life. It rubs off on everyone. Create that sense in your gut. When you do, you really won't give two shits about most of the pickup stuff being marketed.

lolz @ thinking he has anger issues.........

I'd say he perfectly put it in perspective

U are douche but good post.

An aggravating post here hath indeed been conceived!


If one is good at cooking, and hence feels the most confident whilst flipping those delicious pancakes, must they construct a portable kitchen to take around with them such that they may be confident in any social situation and in the general public?

You are indeed correct, and I agree with you. HOWEVER, it MUST be noted that those who are "alpha" are confident in public because they are confident in the fashion in which they act in the presence of other people, and this is the variable to the equation. The acquisition of this is imperative in order to be "alpha".

You have missed the point that those who many childishly coin "alpha" are as such simply because they know how to act in accordance with the ideal image of masculinity of our society. Or perhaps you were to discuss this in your next post, which, so far, is nowhere to be seen.