Doesn't happen with friends,doesn't happen in a 2 month relationship.
I found this when I talk to new people,I assume they are higher value then me.This is,in fact,the old PUA mentality.
So when i talk to new people I usually : change the way I talk(intonation,accent) and probably goes down to non verbal language as well.The new way of talking belongs to a friend of mine,alpha.The change is almost instinctive,I don't think about it really at all,if a hot girl comes when even I wake up ... I know I'm gonna talk to her from the "need to impress" frame.
Note : This doesn't mean I do dumb shit that some guru wrote on his blog about entitled "10 mistakes man do"(smile all the time,agree all the time,etc),in fact what I do isn't dumb at all.The mindset is what's bothering me.
Furthermore...
Considering people enjoy their time with me in this context,I(may) end up conveying a wrong persona.And that won't be very nice for my future relationships.


What I need is some shift from this wrong mentality,some good tips.

Yo,

Gotta tell you, you are my first post,
so listen, what I got from you is that people enjoy how you impress them and all, but you know inside that this isn't really you? And that if you keep going they will get attached to the fake you huh?

So here are some tips:

1) Sometimes its good to be "fake", and what happens when you do that, you get the habit of making people laugh, and impressed by you, but at times that it is UNNECCESARY to be impressing, be yourself. When you know the people are already interested in you, start to be yourself and convey the real you. Then they have a wide variety of emotions reflected on you, which is what you really need to get interest.

2) Show them that you are "faking" it, at times exaggerate it and even point it out, as that will make them laugh and probably cry their eyes out, and once that happens, change to your real self, don't be scared, they already know you are funny, now they want to see the other side of you, which once again, creates more emotions towards you.

That's how I play it out, and eventually have both girls to flirt with, buoys that are impressed by my actions, and a girl that I have to deal with, and just can't deal with... But that's my own issue that I have to seek out

I hope I made some sense....

Enjoy,
Gambler

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