It's been a rough month...I think I completely lost whatever progress I made here with game.

I feel like my inner game and confidence are just smashed right now.

Last few times I've gone out, solo or with friends, I've struck out with every set I've opened. They ALL had boyfriends. Every girl I talked to was friendly enough, but always made sure I knew she was their with her bf or husband, or engaged. Some of them were, but they ALL couldn't have been...it's such an easy excuse to use to put off a guy.

I was doing good, maybe not with closing, but AA and social anxiety are sort of sticking points with me. I've done okay getting rid of the AA, but the anxiety is a little harder. Keeping the conversation interesting after approaching isn't the easiest thing in the world for me.

I'm just regressing now though....AA is creeping back up, I saw this gorgeous girl at the grocery store the other day, but I could NOT think of any way to open.

A few girls I've been trying to date haven't completely blown me off,but are flaking out alot lately. I hate the up and down of that...I get excited because we have plans, then they cancel on me and I get bummed. Total fucking AFC shit right there. There's two of them...either of them flakes out again, they're gone. I still have at least some self respect.

I've been to two weddings this month and have anther one to go...not that I'm in a rush for that, but it IS a bit depressing seeing the happy couples together while I'm still single (basically the only one at any of these weddings...WTF)

It's at the point though where I can't even get motivated to leave the house...it's 9 PM on a sat night, and I haven't even gotten dressed yet today...I WANT to go out, I just can seem to push my self into doing it.

Any tips on getting myself un-fucked and getting my head back on straight?

I dont really have any tips for you,i just can say i totally understand you,and feel basicaly the same way.
Some pasts months,i also felt i was making some progress,even that a shitty progress,but then,she came,and destroyed the whole self-steem i had built,now im in completly deep shit.
I also feel with no will to go out,i basicaly stay at home the whole day/week/month.
Im more fat than EVER,things are getting really hard,im starting to think suicide is the only way out of this,and im actually planning my suicide,i just need to do some things before it.

Dude, suicide is DEFINITELY NOT the way to go. Not even an option.

I'm glad you can relate to me, and I know what you mean as well. If you're on the edge, and struggle with staying positive as I do, (and it sounds like you do as well)it really only takes a few bad experiences to just push you over it as far as losing confidence and motivation. But the challenge is to regain it.

That's where I am. I'm certainly not ready to give up, and neither should you. I want to regain it, and fix my mental state. Giving up is not an option. To me, if you give up, all those people that hurt you or kept you down win. F that, you don't want them to win. You just gotta get back on that horse, and keep at it, while proving that you ARE worth it, and you ARE a valid person.

To anyone that hurts you or keeps you down, well fuck 'em, they're not worth your time anyway. You gotta rise above it.

And as far as suicide, here's my thoughts on that... A friend of mine had a relative commit suicide, and it just tore up the family. Everyone was hurt, and it left such a mess. I don't know about you, but me, no matter how bad I thougth things were, I just couldn't do that to my family.

Also, you have to remain hopefull..... no matter how shitty today was, you have to remember, tomorrow is a new day. Yeah, it could be shitty too, but you never know, it could be great. You just have to appreciate the little things. I'llbe honest with you, my day to day life sucks, it's basically just work. But every once in a while, I'll go on a vacation, or spend time with friends on the weekend. THOSE are the times I live for, because they're the good times, and it reminds me that it feels good to be alive.

What makes YOU happy? Go out and do them! Those are the things you need to think about, and live for.

Like I said, tomorrow is a new day.....you never know what could happen. If you're not around for tomorrow, who knows what you could miss?

People pushed down,i dont wanna stay here on the ground,but it looks like i dont know how to get up,i just dont know what to do,its a dark hole.
you asked me to do things i like. the problem is, I CAN NOT DO THINGS I LIKE.
Im sick,i cant do any sports,or stuff like that,and for this reason im also gettin fatter every day that passes.
If it wasnt enought,the disease also fucks my body appereance,and its depressing THE HELL OUT OF ME.

so,whats my future? A 30 years old virgin,fat,ugly.
lets be honest here,suicide is better than that.
Yeah man,i agree with you,my family is the only thing holding back of commiting suicide,but if things are really in deep shit,im gonna do it,im tired of this life.

How is suicide better than that? How can you let one person affect your self esteem? If you are concerned about your appearance start going to a gym... start using programs like demonic confidence or some of Hypnotica's cds... In the long run all of your current worries will not matter... you have the choice of what you want to be... suicide is the worst choice you could ever make!

Going to a PUA forum and contemplating suicide absolutely don't go together. You have to be alive to be a PUA!

Anyways, all of your problems can be fixed, like your weight issues. The other half of your problems are imaginary - being 'ugly' is a perception and if you hold that perception yourself then there's nothing anybody else can do. I don't really understand you, haudas. You're giving advice to people on other threads and talking about your suicide on this one!

To the TS, yes you're going to feel horrible sometimes but sit down, relax, and ask yourself why you're feeling so low. Force your mind to pinpoint a specific reason for your problems, or think of the problems themselves. You got rejected? EVERYBODY DOES! When I feel low, I force myself to think of what it is that's causing me my agony, and most of the times it will be something like, 'When I got rejected yesterday..', or 'I wish I looked better..', and then my mind automatically reminds me of better times, like, 'Hey, I was rejected yesterday, but what about the number I got day before?', or, 'Damn, I remember that chick called me hot..'.

I know it sounds pretty vain but that's how I've trained my mind, and it works more often than not. Your post mentions a 'lack of success' - sure, thats a hindrance alright. But ponder over your methods in each interaction - were you interesting enough for her? Or did you simply crack a joke and ask for her number?

Most guys tend to point rejections and failures with women to their looks, because it's the only thing they cannot change. They feel that they need to be 'hot' enough for the woman, but that's really not true. If you can hold a good conversation, make her laugh a bit, and stir her emotions up a tad, you have a recipe for success. Good eye contact, good speaking skills, good humor, all can be learnt.If you're not terribly overweight (if you are then start losing it), then it's not going to be a real issue. Women like their men to be fit, but apart from that there are no generalizations as to what they like and what they don't. Look at our celebrity males - They come in all shapes and sizes, tall and short, fat and bald, old and young. But look at the females; almost always thin, botoxed and dyed,trying to look forever young. Men are creatures bound by appealing physical traits, women are not.

Guys,I really appreciate you reply here.

"salsero77":Like i said i CANNOT do sports,obvously it includes gym,i cant go to the GYM.

"frost3627 ": Lets be honest here man,if a dude is handsome,stylish or whatever,he IS gonna TOTALLY demolish the guy who is handsome.
Picture a scenario,a party or whatever,a hot guy,and a terribly ugly guy,you KNOW that the ugly just stands NO CHANCE against the hot one,so WHATS THE FUCKIN POINT? Man i listen to female talking sometimes,i hear things like: "Oh he is ugly as hell,i would never do him." "He asked you out?He is freaking weirdo".

and you say "If you can hold a good conversation, make her laugh a bit, and stir her emotions up a tad". BUT THE PROBLEM IS,I DONT KNOW HOW TO HELL DO THIS. IM A LOSER THAT DOENST EVEN KNOW HOW TO TALK TO PEOPLE.
Man,I REALLY hate myself,its not little,I hate myself more than everyone,i badly see my self as a human being.
And its HARD TO LIVE THAT WAY,you wake up thinking about suicide,and you SLEEP thinking about suicide. Thats the only way out i see out of this messy world.

Again,thank you guys.

Haudas, you are an attention seeker and that is why you're on these forums. At least learn a little while you're here!

All I'm going to say is that your undoing is the fact that you're comparing yourself to the next guy, fearing how the 'hotter' guy would get the chick and you wouldn't. Your competition isn't with him, it's with yourself. I can easily say that 90% of guys have difficulty talking to a woman, let alone cold approaching her. But it appears as though you do not want to compete and improve yourself, and you choose to resort to suicide, or whatever it is you want to do.

If you've decided you're a loser yourself, then what can somebody else do to help you? Even the pope couldn't change your mind.

[quote="frost3627"]Haudas, you are an attention seeker and that is why you're on these forums. At least learn a little while you're here!

All I'm going to say is that your undoing is the fact that you're comparing yourself to the next guy, fearing how the 'hotter' guy would get the chick and you wouldn't. Your competition isn't with him, it's with yourself. I can easily say that 90% of guys have difficulty talking to a woman, let alone cold approaching her. But it appears as though you do not want to compete and improve yourself, and you choose to resort to suicide, or whatever it is you want to do.

If you've decided you're a loser yourself, then what can somebody else do to help you? Even the pope couldn't change your mind.[/quote]

attention seeker? why would i waste my time with this?
i wouldnt have to post it on a forum online if i could to people near me.
but,if you say so.