Hey people, what's up?!

This is more an issue of mindfulness than psychology, I believe. Here we go.

Lately I was wondering how one can actually punish someone by cutting time spent together, and even more, taking care of oneself by closing yourself up to destructive behaviour and at the same time not be bitter about people.

Let's say some friend from your social circle doesn't want to have you at her sit in. That is something I at least wouldn't want to deal with and therefore distance myself from that group of girls.
Not to be bitter about them or being angry and hateful would mean to forgive. But not the arrogant form (putting yourself in a POSITION to be allowed to judge forgiveness, that is). But seing that there is nothing to forgive.

Now with that liberation and open hearted attitude towards the world and people around you... how can one put boundaries and yet be fully loving and forgiving towards the people you choose to punish/ you've decided to be unhealthy for your life?

Clearly in this world, you can't let people walk over you.

I'm grateful for your answers

well for me my friend i had to use alot of motto and rules "i can forgive but i cant forget" "treat others depending on how well you get treated".
i was in your situation awhile ago and i ended up leaving my circle and do my own things in life and this is where it has brought me .

with my old circle they ended up choosing they'r own path and i chose mine, they were always a good friend but we always had conflicts between the group and i was sick of it. i only dislike one person from the group because he was a very manipulative lil bastard that he is, so everytime he was with the group id try and avoid him but it made things worse because my group had the idea i dislike him so it split the group. it got to a point where we tryed to sort things out but the way he was doing it was very sarcastic but that was all i wanted to hear just the word im sorry(admiting he was a manipulative brat). so i said to myself to be carefull around this person and not let my guard down if i'm ever going to be with him, i still treated him the same as i did before i just changed my actions everytime.

example:
Him: do you want to go out to town tonight?
Me: sure, lets drink early with the girls
Him: yeah man that sounds good, you buy the piss and ill buy the weed, ive only got $20
Me: na man i dont smoke anymore besides it was your idea to go out in the first place

this doesnt sound like a good situation for you because girls are more bitchy lols
but i hope u get the idea...

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