I'm quite experienced, i studied a lot of pickup so i know most of the theory, but i just had a long busy time with work cuz i had to finish and succeed school, so i couldn't go out a lot. I also had some personal problems etc. Thing is now, i have more difficulties at meeting new people, having interesting conversations, making girls laugh, being open, knowing when and how to say the right things to girls, and above all, i feel less comfortable, confident and secure with other girls now.

My innergame is at a low level.

But i'm not going to whine over it. I want to be a PUA, i want to fuck, and above all, i want to have fun and be a social, fun and outgoing person.

My goals:
- i want to get rid of aproach anxiety
- i want to be open, social, and confident with (speaking to) anyone
- i want to be able to open and start a conversation to any HB without any single fear
- i want to be active in any conversation
- i want to be fun and humorous
- i want to be able to say the right things at the right moments, deal shit tests fine
- i want to be interesting
- i want to be able to talk about any subject

But i'm still figuring out how i should reach these goals.

i'm going to some other cities this summer with some other (bothe amateur PUA and more advanced) friends. we discussed going there and just opening many girls on the street and get rejected a lot. I'm going to college next year, so it's important that i'm confident and great at pickup when college starts.

remember, im not an afc, i have some experience, and when i have the time and chance, i have a very outgoing and busy life, and i know most of pickup theory, but i must be able to perform in real life, and that's where i stick. it's easy to give advice here on forums, but kind of hard when you have to do it in reality.

You can give me thousands of psychological articles about confidence, but do you think that i will reach all my goals naturaly only by just opening (and getting rejected by) a lot of girls over and over? some things you experienced yourself? keep the advice going!

thanks in advance

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just believe you can and you WILL. that simple.
your post shows me that you are not thinking the best of yourself most of the time and that affects your game tremendously.

Go out and talk to people. Get in various conversations. When youre in a club, ask somebody for the time. If your shyness is really bad, walk by people. Just get out.

After couple of nights, you can approach a girl and ask her if she knows when the club closes or something.

Something that will get you out of conversation quickly.

Actually I dont understand what is there to be affraid. You guys are really behaving like a bunch of girls.

If you see a beautiful girl, you want her, BE a damn man and go talk with her. Say Hi to her and smile.

If she turns, be Ok. Talk with another.

Bunch of pussies...

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agreed.

Hahahahahaa !


Can't even remember I ever posted this, must have had a bad day or week then.

19 june ... ... Oh yeah, i was still on my SHIT school then, with ugly booring girls with bad humour and silly interests (same for the guys), where I was for nearly 7 years. No wonder I felt depressed. God gladd that I'm going to college next year! It was a place where people had social rules comming from Mars, no self respecting PUA would hold it out there. long story short.

Trust me, this summer I talked to and opened a lot of girls. I had some good game. I was realy social and assertive the past period, but still, some cute/hot but sociale insane 18 year old girls are still very shy, or arrogant, affraid to talk to strangers, aloof, not interested (call it what you like) which makes it sometimes extremely difficult to escalate or to keep on gaming them. I get often bored with these girls and eject. With these girls, "just walking up to her, 'just' saying hi and 'just fucking talk to her'" (as many people say) will never lead you to very good results. It only makes you get used to getting rejected, and maybe only 1/10 is willing to talk to you then.
That is why you also for example need status, especially with these kind of girls.
The past few weeks, the best conversations I had were with 20 year old girls

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I am new to the community, I have been working on it since January, but its just starting to catch on. I just got back on my college campus and can finally go to the bars and everything that I have been doing in the past has started to really pay off.

One thing I realized today was that the hardest part about picking up girls is having the confidence to do so, but I also realized that once you get that initial bit of confidence, it starts to increase exponentially afterward. In the past 3 days, I have had 3 separate girls end up in my bed (not necessarily sex, but regardless).

So to all you newbies out there, really push yourself to meet people so that initial bit of confidence comes faster. After that, you will get a lot better a lot faster.

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