So recently I ran into my friends who about 2 years ago completley abandoned me. They ignored me texts, my calls, and any contact I tried to have with them. I know they were doing this because of the way I was behaving. I came back from Lithuania where I was named to try-out for the National basketball team. There I had no contact with anyone with pretty much 3 weeks. My grandma and my dads cousin if you count that. I felt socially isolated and I got cut from the team. After I get back to the U.S I didnt feeel like myself. I felt socially out of it.

Since I got invited to try out for the national team I started acting in ways that showed I was better than others. I felt superior to everyone and it showed. Eventually my friends completley left me and I didnt have any friends anymore. Even though its hard to admit I felt like an asshole who thought he was better than others. I acted like it too.

Recently, I ran into them and I felt a deep sense of grief. Like these were my really good friends and some part deep within me still needs them. They are really nice and cool downt to earth guys. Its just the way I acted around them after I got back from Lithuania that they didnt like. They never belittled me and were always supportive. Never made fun of anyone and shit like that. They were really good friends and I really do want them back.

I felt good around them. I felt confident. I felt at ease. I felt relaxed. Its just when I see them I feel ashamed of myself and its sometimes hard to even look them in the eyes. I seriously dont know what to do. I want them back but I dont want to get hurt again. How would you guys handle this situation. Please give me some tips.

Thansk

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Cut the shit, time to fuck.

Huh, this is different. Have you tried just going up to them and acting like nothing happened? Either they'll call you out for being a bitch before and you can apologize, or they'll just let you back in the group and you can explain if it ever comes up. They've already done a bulk of the shit talking while you were gone and in my experience, a group of men is pretty much always willing to forgive any kind of blunder and let a founding member back in.

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31 and still figuring it out.

I personally would go outright and just admit you had been a dick and ask for forgiveness. Make the effort and assuming they see a change I do not see why they wont have you back as a good mate?

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