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PostPosted: Fri Jul 09, 2010 8:27 pm 
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cliff notes -

met this girl last week, f closed on a day 2, don't particularly want to see her again, she lives on the same road as me two houses away and got all weird b4 sex saying stuff like "you better not be one of those guys who f's me and then never calls"

Now I don't particularly have any desire to see her again but feel bad ignoring her by not calling her after she put out.

any help?
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 09, 2010 11:03 pm 
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Because you let her believe that you were not one of those guys. And because you dont really wanna lose contact with her since she is an easy fuck. But you have to keep her happy and you arent prepared to invest the amount that she requires...

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Definitely do not give a shit about seeing her ever again.

I feel bad though and that Ive done something wrong.

Yes, in retrospect, I let her believe that I was not one of those guys but not by explicitly saying anything.

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Don't worry about it all--have you ever met a girl who said

''Im exactly like every other Girl'' ''you know I AM the type of girl you think i am'' ''I usually sleep with a guy on the first night''

Its just her saying what most of them feel they ought to say--they have been socially programmed by girlie mags. Its her trying to DHV

''Im not like all those other girls,Im unique,Im different'' = ''Im full of Shit''
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im sure she was trying to DHV but im also sure that she will be upset that I didnt call/think im a dickhead player type

why do i feel bad that 1) she will be upset 2) she might think bad about me

man my inner game is so screwed!!
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PostPosted: Sat Jul 10, 2010 12:16 am 
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are you worried about what she thinks or are you worried that she will bad mouth you too her friends so that you will be seriously lowered in their estimation.

OK i know you feel guilty , your probably a decent guy who doesnt want to use someone,but you didnt ,she knew what she was doing--why not call her meet up and just LJBF her
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not worried at all about what her friends think, just genuinely care about her being upset / dont want HER to think im a dick even though I wouldnt mind never seeing her again.

seems so illogical when i write it out!

LJBF talk sounds like a good idea
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LJBF is probably win win---she doesnt get totally rejected and she could become a an occasional FWB if you like,while you are not tied down,feeling guilty
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thanks man - appreciate the advice

should i be worried about how i think though or is my thought process normal? cant help feeling a bit beta...
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as were on the topic whats i good answer to this - "you better not be one of those guys who f's me and then never calls"
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Theres nothing wrong with your thinking--caring about someones feelings not wanting to hurt them or make them feel as if they have been used or played is a sign that your perfectly sane and balanced only a psycopath has no conscience,you probably are prone like a lot of people to over thinking and analizing things--i have to break the awful news to you that im afraid your human
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answer id give is ''no sure ill call you'' and do call her after,

at least once :D

she mightent necessarily like the conversation but hey
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