| Your cocky/funny might be a little too innocent. Use the field to your advantage. I don't think everyone would recommend this, but there is usually a tool somewhere in the room, whether he's a mutual friend or stranger, could be an ex, doesn't really matter. If he's screwing up and being a dbag, use it to your advantage. Make the tool out to be perfect for her, you crack jokes about him and it makes you seem like a bit of a jerk, but well justified. Again, I don't know if everyone would agree because I've seen people say that tearing down other guys is DLV but I think that's when its done only for the sake of tearing someone else down and being a tryhard. You can't be "bad" to a rock, you have to be bad to people, just regulate it and make sure its an insider thing. It works for me, I push the limits of being a jerk and being funny but as sort of a secret thing, it builds a connection and shows you understand women, and builds a little excitement. Women love drama. You can use that to work on moving the conversations into personal things, relationships, etc. Screening, some negging, tools are tools for a reason, they're useful, don't let a douche go to waste because they can bail you out of nice guy status. You don't have to climb mountains to seem adventurous. Just my 2 cents.
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