I have come to the conclusion that I have a distorted self image. I used to lift heavily and was described by strangers so eloquently as friggin' jacked as hell. I though I still wasn't big enough and eventually gave up. I have the feeling I have a pudgy face, yet people accuse me of shooting up drugs, being starved and even starving myself because they describe my face as skinny and boney. I have been called, cute, pretty (lol), and sexy but I hate all pictures of myself. I know I sound like a bitch, while writing this, I realize how stupid this sounds. But I beginning to believe that I'm a little screwed up because it definatly kills my confidence at times. Let me make it clear now that I'm healthy, clean and not anorexic.

Anyone else have a similar problem? How do you overcome this?

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Honestly I've never had this problem. Not trying to put you down I'm just saying I only recently started to lift weights and dress real nice. But even before that I thought I was a stunner. I probably was a scrawny lil kid, but since I kept tellin myself that girl's wanted me...they did. The best way to build yourself up is to go out and get yourself a nice set of threads. Overspend a bit. If you're own mental health isn't worth lots of money than what is my friend? I'm talking shirt, jeans, belt (shoes if you really wanna break the bank, and cologne...if you don't wanna buy it use the free stuff at the counter lol). Start wearing that stuff and start loving the mirror. Ask people you know you can count on "How does this look on me?" The ones you can count on will always reply with "great!!! amazing!!! blah blah" Eventually you'll look at yourself in the mirror and go wow...I do look good. Cuz trust me dude, any guy that thinks he's looking good...is looking even better to the ladies.

What you're dealing with really isn't all that uncommon.

I think women are more prone, and open about having self image issues than men... but it doesn't mean that many men don't.

I'm sure you're attractive and that you've worked really hard in the past to get the body you have/had.

What needs to happen is some deep digging as to why you feel the way you do about yourself. It's not healthy to keep working and never be happy with yourself and there's a reason why you feel like that.

It'll probably hurt to discover it, since it seems to be a deep issue for you-- but it'll be worth it.

I do have info about particular material that'll help with this if you want, PM me.

The good news is that this is definitely something you can work through and take care of. You're not a "bitch", it's just an obstacle to over come. Everyone has obstacles.

Ashley.

It's okay, we've all been there man.

Stick with this, and I can guarantee you'll finally discover you're not some ugly loser.

This is a tiny inner game problem which will soon disappear, don't worry.

Confidence, Cohen.

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He who makes a beast out of himself gets rid of the pain of being a man.
He who makes a PUA out of himself accentuates the pleasure.

I have some solutions:

You think YOU'RE UGLY?!

See these guys:
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I'm 500% positive none of them are you.Therefore,you have nothing to worry about.

Have faith in who you are,or else everything will crumble.

Look at everyone around u..At least one off the ten people u see are self concious...But u dont see that because everyone looks the same as a normal person with some uniqueness to them. They see u the same ur just everyone else with some uniqueness added.. Unless u are a Gremlin.

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"Not all who wander are lost. You only get live once, living it in fear would be a shame to your own existence."

you are the man. we are both jacked. you can get any girl you want. i can get any girl i want. all girls want both of us. if you start believing these things, soon other people will believe them too. just a matter of time until you assume that position. afraid of being judged? Fuck it, it doesn't matter what other people think. hold your head high all the time, smile all the time, whenver you go outside, make EC and smile at every girl you run into. when that one HB9 smiles back, you will feel like a king. pretend you are the shit, and you will become the shit. hope this helped -Rye

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"You're so money and you don't even know it!"

Perception is reality.

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Took some advice, had a girl who knows fashion pick out something for me. I now dress well, and have begun affirmations (I think it's beginning to work). I'm still working on my comfort about accessories. I've been getting lots of complements, more so from guys though, which is awkward. I don't dress this way for complements from girls, I'm not saying I need to hear approval, it's just awkward to hear it from men. Hearing "we were saying how you always look good, I like this new look you have going for you, you've got the signature 'Prez' look going for you, you look really solid... I mean that etc. etc" is a lil' uncomforting. I can only say thanks.

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Now Style said the manner in which PUAs were dressed was everything he once dismissed as cheesey (I know he's mostly speaking about the gimmicky part of peacocking), and I read Julius Fast's book on body language (Is this a good resource or is it shit?) which mentioned dress and in his example of an attractive male would be considered poor by other men. What I'm saying is, If most guys like my style... am I off?

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ARH! i hate lookin at pictures of myself. but you gotta realize, everyone has insecurities and the feeling that something is wrong with them. but why? because they have known themselves so long. it takes a long time to realize the details that most people never notice. the first couple times you meet someone, they have a very general outlook on you. you shouldnt worry about it.

I've been doing the "i like myself" affirmation and two seperate incidents have happened since. The first was a girl in my class telling me I should model. (My insecure side says, she's making fun of my dress and posture). Another time, my friend introduced me to his girlfriend, who is known to be honest to the point of akwardness: the "no social filter" type. She tells me my face is surreally beautiful, like that of a marvel character, my friend assists her, describing me as chiseled. (My insecure side is telling me she must've been high).

Could my affirmations make me reflect a little more confidence, causing these comments?
Sharing my insecurities, it's clear I have a way to go if that is the case.

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Prez, Dude, everyone here has been in or is in the same position as you. Some of us got over it. You will too.

Take a look at this: inner-game-checklist-before-you-go-out-vt161.html

Pay particular attention to #1 "What other people think of you is none of your business." And really it isn't. You're not going to please everyone all the time so just get used to it.

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