For example if I see a woman and think to myself. "I'm the alpha and I own you" as a way to motivate myself and keep myself confident. Is that too arrogant. I mean is there a problem with it as long as I don't actually act that out.

I was thinking of this the other day, and I remember the boxer James Toney coming out with the comment "This is my world, and you just happen to live in it". Of course he is an arrogant guy (and maybe he needs to be) but is that kind of mentality over-compensating or is it justified for someone like me who has lived with social anxiety for so long and needs to make a profound change to my mind?

Also, I told this story in another post. Women can sometimes look arrogant in their assessment of you. For example I was in Starbucks reading a book when some woman looked at me with a disgusted look. Also when I make eye contact with women some of them look away, but with a fairly annoyed expression.

How do I treat women like that in my mind?

Do I treat them with arrogance? Do I try to reduce them in my mind? Or is there some other approach that I am missing. Maybe I should just not care, but this sometimes results in some submission on my part. Like when the woman in Starbucks gave me the bad look for no reason I broke eye contact, which is not good for my inner game.

My point is should I be more aggressive / arrogant and hold eye contact as if I am the alpha, and what inner game should I have when women are rude, or give me bad looks?

I don't think I have the straight forward answers for you so Im just gonna give you few of my experiences which you may find the answers within.

My favorite part of seduction is inner game.Why? In my AFC days,I suffered from a lacc of confidence,etc. so I studied inner game like a maniac to overcome it.

It's a balancing act;of not going over board.

Inner game has made me very cocky and every now and then,I'd tone it down.

When you don't know when to tone it down,that's where the prob' comes in.

But I really don't know why a girl would turn away from you in disgust while reading? Im confused to why.

Just don't think about whether you're too arrogant or not.

My next club outing,I plan on opening a girl with this routine that I'd made:

[As the target walks towards me in the club,from the side,I'd take her hand and pull her towards me(with a smile on my face as if I knew her)]

Me:Hey,this world today is full of damn selfish ppl unwilling to do favors for others.

[Then,I'd pull out a $20,put it in her hand and say to her to].

Me:I see you as 1 willing to help others[making it seems like I know her already-Im some what psychic]so why don't you go buy US some drinks. I want a .....

Now,guys would say that that's very arrogant and overly bold.

I think that's a great club routine and I don't view it as being arrogant but Alpha.

So my point now is to not look at your ways as arrogant. Just do it and believe in it. Girls won't see it as arrogant if you don't.

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Hi K-Loc, well I am concerned not about being cocky, but that the arrogant kind of inner game where I try to consider myself as being above other guys or an alpha male might be too strong and lead to the wrong attitude on my part.

I don't want to end up thinking too aggressively in response to women giving me go away signals as this might only cause more thought distortions elswhere in my head.

I guess there is some balance between being confident and resiliant, or being aggressive, and I am not sure if the kind of "I own you" or "this is my world" kind of mantra is the right one for me to be using.

Now I get what you saying.

Well PU-mantras Im a fan of;especially when Im feeling a bit off or lacking confidence.

I'd use few confidence-building mantra by some of the gurus.

Plus they pump your state.

I forgot the PU-guru who authored this,but he had a mantra for state building before going sarging.

It was saying that before you go out,look yourself in mirror and say to yourself that I am the shit ,the prize...Im desired above all other men...

That little mantra definitely helped me when I needed my state pumped.

I even made up 3 so-called mantras and wrote them in my Palm Treo mobile in order to recite when feeling AFCish.

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Thanks for that. I'm working on getting things to read as I am going out. I find sometimes my motivation is high and other times it is just average depending on what I see on these forums.