new to the site. hopefully this is the right section

im not depressed or anything. Its complicated let me explain.

Basically, what happened was that i had devoloped a bit alcohol problem and it was starting to mess up my life. So, i seperated myself from all my bad influences and just focus on school and work and getting my life back on track.

However, i pretty much became a recluse for well over 2 years and devoloped a lil bit of social awkwardness. Like im not shy, im naturally outgoing and have no problem approaching girls. it just became to the point that i handled myself awkwardly in public.

So to fix taht, i decided "hey, why not sign up for an online dating site. get some dates with some chicks im not interested in and just use them to practice building up my confidence". Big mistake.

At first i was getting responses from pretty respectable chicks as i used a pic of my abs as my display pic(kinda gay i know, but w/e). but i was getting rejected by them when we met up because i was still rusty socially. so i kept lowering my standards.

I soon found myself going out with some girls who were pretty repulsive and they rejected me. Like they didnt bath reguarly, eat right, work, do anything. They simply just existed for the sake of existing. But since i had become socially awkward, they rejected me i guess for being weird?

Obviously, these rejections destroyed my confidence to the point that i dont have anymore. Like im not really insecure about my appearance or antying. i just now think there is something wrong with me and i cant get any girls.

like i know its not my appearance. i take care of myself pretty well and go to the gym all the time. and used pics of my abs to get chicks off those online dating sites. and im pretty decent looking in the face. so this has really gotten me down.

Try to work on your behavior and social skills then. Read up on body language and how to act like a gentleman. Just start with something little, it could be good friends etc. Just try to change yourself.

Everything is possible if you want it enough.