Hey guys first post so go easy on me. In a nutshell I used to be a successful PUA and racked up some good numbers in uni. However in September i met a girl and we dated for 5 months, she told me she loved me and I got a bad case of oneitis. Anyway she was always really distant from me never text never called and this completely threw my game out the window, i was always txtin, calling and chasing her, tried to play her at her own game but it just resulted in me not hearing from her at all unless i initiated something. Consequently she broke it off with me saying she didnt want any1 right now and wanted to be alone. 2 weeks later shes shaggin around. Any advice on where i went wrong and how to start over with gettin my game back?

Hey Jester,forget what you might've done wrong-Oneitis was where you went wrong.

Plus,we've all been there. The bumber is going through oneitis while you're in the PU community and you should know better.

I want to focus on the girl's mentality.

Believe it or not,she just wanted fling thing. Of course she's not going to say it because it'll make her look like a slut.

But you as "a guy in the know"(supposed to have been),it was your responsibility to know or sense that about her,then play it accordingly by not falling.

She expected you to be the man-the alpha male to lead the situationship and ensure it doesnt go too far.

You let her lead and thats where it went downhill.

So what if a girl says she loves you. Bullshit-dont buy it! You bought it. Women dont know what the fucc they mean or want.

So thats where you went wrong;you let her define the situationship and sucked you into a love triangle which she didnt want.

This HB was probably banging 5 other guys at the same time because se was a fun-chicc. You should've known that and played it that way.

Plus,if you were sarging other girls and laying others,you would not have gotten ONEitis. But you probably invested all your time(sarge time,phone time,etc.)with this 1 girl.

Thats why my best part of seduction is the female psycology part of it.

Since you've been in the community for a while now,you should've already known that women dont know what they want,and it's up to the man to define it for them.

You didnt define it. So next time around,know that to not let a woman psych you out with the love thing.

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weve all been there... that chick that seems to drive us crazy. i just got out of a "relationship" like that. i dropped all my FBs just so i could be with her which was a HUGE mistake. you did the same thing i did and put waaaay to much into it then you got.
but look at it this way, the difference between AFCs and PUAs in this situation is not dwelling on it and get back in it. just look at her as a learning experience.

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Ye I should have known better! If anything iv took it as a lesson to detach myself from all that shit! Nailed a HB last night though so things are on the up! K-loc thanks for reminding me on how it should of gone down I needed that. Most frustrating thing was I knew what to do but ended up doing the opposite! lesson learnt!

best way to get over a girl is getting a couple of fucks under your belt. you get to realize shes not the only one that did that thing with her tongue haha

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hahahaaha

Jester, the process of becoming a mature and strong man recquires accepting and taking responsibility for everything that happens. You need to accept the fact that she left you and get over it. You dont control anything in that situation anymore so accept it. Literally, go in your head and say "I accept this" and "I am responsible" then let all of the emotions that come up for you flow through your body without any resistance.

The best part of dealing with the loss of a loved one is to grieve about it. When somebody grieves a whole set of new emotions and opportunities come up for the person. They literally get to feel more positive emotion in their everyday lives. So when grief comes up for you dont resist it accept it and go through the process of feeling the emotions of it.

Third thing I want to tell you is that a woman should not be the primary focus of your life. A woman should always be the second priority in your life and not the first. The first should be your mission and path in life. You need to figure that out for yourself and whatever that is you need to follow it and not let no one woman stop you from doing that. This is a plus for you because women are drawn too men who are on their path and it saves you all the bullshit that happens after a hard break up.

So, find your path in life and dont let no woman control it or tell you what to do about it. Embrace it and follow it. Dont let no woman take time away from you just because she wants to hang out. If your busy working on your mission simply tell her that youd rather hang a little later or next time. Time spent with your woman should be the time spent when you actually want to be with your woman. If you dont she will sense it.

Secondly, accept responsibility and everything thats going on in your life today. From all of the negative emotions popping up to everything that happens in every day life. ACCept EVERYTHING. Id highly reccomend getting David Ds On being a man program. Its hardcore inner game shit that should help you out tremendously in your life.

I'll look into it mate. Thanks for your feedback its helped me process everything and I do accept responsibility. Only feeling I have left is frustration in the way I acted when I knew better all along. I think because of my oneitis I lost my way with my own mission and eventually ceased to have one. so I supplemented the relationship as my mission (if that makes sense). Knowing what to do and actually doing it are 2 very different things indeed.