ok so im a freshman in college (far from home) and at the start of the semester i was real confident and pullin chicks every weekend. When i walked into a room i wasnt thinking if i was gonna hit on girls, i was thinkin which one...then i went thru some stuff wit my ex back home and pretty much after tht my inner game has been shot

i want my old confidence back, i just dont know how to get it....

edit: fixed some stuff up

Sounds like your back at the start.. Like you said, you used have bucketloads of confidence and approached any woman in your eyesight. Hopefully you've always kept track of what you did and how you developed and perhaps even written it down. You just have to get right back into mate.

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I didn't write anyting down about how i had gained confidence. I guess what im asking for is advice on how to get my old alpha mindset back. I feel like im stuck in a rut, I've tried going to a few frat parties, but I end up feelin way too beta and that im lookin for others' approval, and haven't pulled girls in a while (and if i do now its cause of my looks).

Heres something you can do. Actually, I did this last night and had the time of my life. To me it seems that you fear rejection. So whats the number way to overcome rejection? Yes, by facing head on with it. Heres what I did to not give a fuck about gettting rejected.

1. I find a friend and go out to a venue where there are lots of women.
2. we play a game called get rejected as much as you can on purpose game.
3. We approach women with the mindset of actually getting rejected and wanting rejection.

I did this shit yesterday because DD reccomended it. I had so much fucking fun its unbelievable. All of a sudden my friends are like calling me the biggest "Alpha male" theyve ever seen. My friends were kind of pussies not gonna lie. All I did was just approached every girl in the club and asked if she wanted to dance and aiting and wanting rejection.

Then when a girl danced with me and her friend didnt want to dance with my friend I rejected the girl. When you do this and get good at it youll never be afraid of getting rejected. Heres my gameplan for next weekend though. Its all about getting out of your comfort zone. Right when getting into the club im going to right away play the same game the second I get into the club. I know most guys go into a club walk around get some drinks and chill waiting for shit to happen . But not me im going TO MAKE shit happen.

I need to start implementing new positive habits when I go out clubbing and this is one of them. I dont know how much nights ive walked aroud and stood around like a fucking wall flower just expecting and wanting shit to happen. Alot of wasted money and time. Im not up for that shit now since im moving out of my parents house for college next year they wont be supplying me with money so I better start maturing and making my time more worthwile.

A huge realization I had though is that most of the time when guys go in with a certain outcome of getting the girl automatically whats more likely to happen? You get rejected. But once you just go in there wanting to get rejected and not giving a fuck women pick up on that and they actually want you more than the guy whos outcome dependent. Seriously, fucking try this shit out. Its a great way to spend time with your friends, overcome fear of rejection, and getting girls

Peaceee!

Hmm I dont think its the fear of rejection...well I hope not at least. I got over that long ago, or maybe not got over it but still comfortable enough with rejection to still approach confidently and if rejection happened I'd brush it off. appreciate the input though

Hmm, is there a lair in Baltimore? I'd be interested in goin out wit them and seein if I can get back on track