I don't really know what to do here so I came here to ask for some help.
There is a story behind this and here is how it goes...
OK so to start off I am going to say that I have been bumping into this girl at random parties since like September only seeing her maybe twice a month while both of us are always a little drunk. Needless to say we only conversate with small talk. I was attracted to her because she is very good looking but I didn't make it a priority, “if it happens it happens” were my thoughts exactly because I didnt think I had a chance, however just last week she added me on facebook. After this point and presently I can't stop thinking of her. Last night I ran into her at the bar and I noticed she gave me a little rub on the back so I playfully shoved her, but the conversation didn't last long because we just got in and she was going to the bathroom with a friend but she said that she would see us in a bit, but I never saw her again that night, this part was partially my fault because I got waay too drunk for my own state of well-being. Anyhoo I want to make this relationship go further but I am having trouble finding out a way how, I mean I don't want to ask her out on a date yet because it seems like I would be rushing in, I don't want to ask for her number because I have already at a party way back in September so I gave her mine, but my phone was dead so I never got hers, for all I know she prolly deleted mine because that was the first night I met her (this is another story in itself).
Also I have noticed in myself how much my confidence shoots down in the winter for some reason, in the spring and summer its booming but now its lower then usual so. Like I am not sure if she has any feelings for me or if she is just being nice/drunk. Well I guess my question is after this long situation is how can I determine if she is in to me, make my confidence show in the winter, and/or press this relationship furthur???

Thanks in advance

Haha I like that, how your confidence sways with the seasons. You sound like a real guy and I'll do my best to help. From what I've read she definitely has shown some interest in you. Who goes out of there way to give someone a back rub? The part where she said she would be back but didn't, don't worry about this too much girls are always on the move when they are out.

Have you tried showing interest in her? If not do it, compliment her than ask a question. For example slightly touch her hair and say: "You're hair is so soft and perfect, what kind of shampoo do you use?" This may sound ridiculous but, every time I used it, it makes the girl giggle. It doesn't have to be that compliment it can pretty much be anything you specifically like about her and compliment her on it.

Don't be a pushover though, you can give compliments to girls and still maintain a dominant state of frame. It feels like she likes you because you're being yourself. That's hot, girls like that. Play with her longer and start building comfort. This is the perfect opportunity for you to "Cube" her. Learn how to cube it's golden. I'm not a fan of routines or canned material or anything of the like however, some are very effective, they are fun, and they work on so many levels such as "The Cube"

Next time you see her say something like "Hey you, what's up. What happened that night you said you would come back to hang out? I waited in that chair for HOURS. I can't even talk to you anymore " if you do use this use it playfully or it will definitely come off as needy.

In essence the next time you see her make a genuine effort to build a sexual relationship. Be with her longer make friends with her friends and hang out with them if you have to. Focus on spending more time with her.

yea thanks for all the information man I appreciate it. There is a chance that I might run into her tonight because my friend knows met one of her friends so we might meet them at a bar tonight which would be a great opportunity.

I am not a fan of using routines I find they can be cheesy and see through, also I am not too sure on how to use the compliment, because we mostly just playfully tease and make fun of eachother I wouldn't want it to seem out of place but I will try to sneak one in see if she catches on. Also what is a good way of using kino without rushing it or making it seem creepy??

This response might be too late however, teasing and playing is definitely fun. The problem with this is eventually you'll be in the dreaded "friendship zone". Busting on each other can only last so long until you or more importantly she loses interest. She wants you and you need to feel this. Tone down the teasing and get serious.

If she continues to bust on you even after you've shown serious interest in a relationship. Best way I can describe it is to use an indicator of disinterest. Do something like turn away or show that you're not interested in her silly behavior. A warning though, this may backfire if you're not entirely sure what I mean. Don't be a jerk or an asshole about her not wanting to get serious just slightly show that your almost disappointed in her behavior.

There are many great threads on here about Kino and Kino escalation. From my perspective touching is natural. Human beings love the feeling of being touched. That's why it feels so much better when someone else gives you a massage instead of massaging yourself. You must have a level of comfort with a girl before getting into touching. Simple ones I use are holding her hand if I'm reading her palm, playful pushing, touching the upper part of her arm when I want her to look at something, thumb wrestling and softly brushing her hair.

This is me though, what works for me may not work for you. I love touching hair and I've learned how to do it without coming off as a weirdo. Read some of the Kino threads and you'll gain a much better perspective.

I didn't end up seeing her last night because I went to another place with some friends, which last night I was kinda upset about but today I fell fine about it so hopefully next weekend. I will keep what you said in mind and see how things play out. As for the teasing I have founnd that it works b/c it puts smiles on both of our faces and seems more ideal for a bar/party environment however I will try to tone it down a bit and talk about her.

sorry to bring this back up again but I really effed up and just have to vent.

I ran into her yesterday at the bar/club and she gave me a hug as I was heading to the bathroom and she asked why I wasn't dancing and grabbed my hand to go dance. But good old me felt that it would be better to go use the washroom first so I told her that I had to go to the bathroom but that I would be right back. She gave me a weird look but I didnt really clue into it til after because I was really drunk. In the bathroom I was all excited and then suddenly realized that I might have just missed my opportunity and that was the very truth. I didnt see her the rest of the night and I kinda feel like she thought I didnt want to dance with her.

It brought down my night I feel I really messed up
If I do run into her tonight say? should I bring up that situation or just let it slide and try to capitlize on what I missed out on yesterday??