Someone asked me before:"If there were no woman in the world, what else can make you happy?" My answer (to myself) is "If there were no woman, that's fine. It's fair because every male doesn't have a woman, we don't have to compete with each other. But if some people have gf/wife, whereas I don't, I'll feel really awkward."

Here is the point, I don't really want a gf in essence(at least for the time being), but I hate to be an under-achiever in the aspect of getting a gf. Especially when I "lose" to some other males, I really feel frustrated. How could I get rid of these negative thoughts?

Feeling of failure is part of it that you have to swallow down and get past. Guys are going to succeed where you don't. Just remember what any man can do you can too! As you get out there and do more you'll see your own success and you'll stop caring about those other guys.

Get out there and fail some more so you can succeed!

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Been around the world twice, Talked to everyone once...

I too experienced the emotions you're feeling now. Failures made me angry. Seeing HB's in love with other guys made me jealous.

A little trick that worked for me was to see failure as success and vice versa. I screwed things up on purpose and did outrageous stuff. Eventually, it will become hilarious and you will get desensitized to failure.

Like JSmooth said: fail in order to succeed.

Good luck and happy failing

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