Hey guys,
This post came out from my mind after 1 year of experience in life and game. Because I dont' want to waste the time of the guys who will only read posts from super-experienced guys, I will tell you upfront that this posts is written by a normal guy, who's only OKAY with women, but having a lot of female FRIENDS as his source and mentors. So here's the post:
When the first time I got into game, I was pretty idealistic with what I want, while in the same time I can live with acceptance of real world environment. Sounds confusing for you? To make it simple, I can enjoy the game and my life, but I have idealistic way of thinking how a relationship should be going. It was like 1 year ago after I met AFC Adam's method, which hands down is one of the most effective method u can use. (no overselling intended here
But after a few months in the game, I was pretty obsessed with flashy games and smart lines and obviously sexual result, and I started to read more and more books, videos, FRs with crazy and obvious, explicitly sexual results, the ones like Brad P's or AFC Adam's himself. So I was book-oriented and can't enjoy almost everything that I already have. Some of you guys with me here?
By that time, I had one girl that I had been approaching for a few months, she's very shy and little bit reserved, but when I looked back she was completely open, sometimes sexual and attracted to me. At that time, I wasn't satisfied and too blind to realize those signs of attractions, I was too book-oriented and want very obviously sexual reactions from every girls I gamed. I always increasing my standards of "being good with women" without being thankful of what I have and how far I've progressed. This attitude eventually made me lost the girl, and believe me she was the best girl I can get, yet.. (I can feel the joyful choir of "hooooraaahhh" by guys who has one itis now
) Don't get me wrong here, I met bunch of other girls, some of them are prettier and more interesting than she was, but inner qualities, honesty and the genuine connection was the factor.
It was this unthankful attitude that made me lost the best girl in my life. If I looked back to the months I was pretty intimate with her, she was definitely attracted, because she changed some of her behavior just for me. But I was thinking today, that if I was on a relationship with her that time, things would never be the same. And I'm happy about the fact that I didn't get the girl back there, I wasn't mature enough.
So guys, I think it's really important for you be grateful of everything you have while improving your standards of girls you get and your life. I'm not talking about going for things that you can get by not pushing yourself out of your comfort zone, I'm talking about be grateful for everything that you get ALONG THE WAY of your improvement, and don't rush the transformation. It takes time to change, especially in this area of your life. It's the "rushing and unthankful" attitude that'll screw you up on the way.
I hope this post can help you guys who's just starting or the one who already got serious plateaus on their game. Remember, this post is written by a guy who's just OKAY with women, nothing more. I'm having 1 obviously attracted girl, and 3 semi-obviously attracted girls, and I'm completely happy with it, nothing more.
So feel free to decide how you're going to take this post.
Hope this helps,
Best pal,
Steven
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