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Inner game wrecked by LJBF:
I dont mind getting rejected at bars or by women that i dont really know, but this is different. I've known the girl for a long time and I know that when we first met she was into me, but I failed to make a move. As time progressed we've become better friends, but she no longer has attraction towards me.
Basically I'm more into her then when we met and she is less into me then when we met.
The reason it hurts so bad is because I feel like she actually knows me. I'm going to a top 5 law school, have many friends, always genuinely try to make the people around me feel better, and by general consensus i'm hilarious (my group of friends voted on superlatives, i.e. best looking, most likely to be living on a sofa in 5 years, etc).
She knows all this and that I care about her and she still doesn't want me.
I'm in the process of moving on, but id like to get some advice.
What does it mean that a girl that, i feel, really knows me doesn't want me, and that the more shes gotten to know me the less she wants me?
How have you gotten over the sting from the lets just be friends deal? Has anyone escaped the friendzone (im hesitant to ask this because it shows that i clearly have not moved on, although im accepting the escape is unlikely which is part of moving forward)?
cliffs: good at other parts of life, but being friendzoned has led me to feel so insufficient. How have you guys gotten over this? or recommend that i get over it?
Hey man,
I know exactly how's your situation right now, because I've been there myself and falling to the same trap right now. The difference is that I got this girl on a fight with me. I'll help you with my experience with the another one.
The situations was a bit worse though. I got into a fight with this girl, she was the primadonna of the school (not so important, but you might get the picture of how valuable is this girl

) and she was the only girl that was reaally nice to me, way before I know game. The answer was game + time.
I'm very busy while I'm writing this post, so I might sound a little bit rushed and sparse, but if you want get more details in this, just contact me by replying to this thread later.
I gave it a time like about 6 months of no contact with the girl, and time worked it out. I reinitiated contact and spice it up with game, and now she's semi-obviously attracted to me.
So the solution is, give it time, man. If time still can't work it out for you, you have to be ready and move on. And it hurts, I know it. I'm feeling it right now.
The feeling that your love is just out of your reach.
Again, I'm on a rush so you might want to contact me again a little bit later. But I hope this one is enough to help you
Hope this helps
Best pal,
Steven
