| Here's something I thought of recently. Kinda ressembles what Sinn said in that topic in PUA Lounge - General Discussion. I didn't read the whole topic, plus I'm relatively new here, so tell me if what I'm writing has been said before.
Like most of you guys, I used to be in the whole PUA thing to have sex with lots and lots of women. That was my goal, to be a casanova. I never fell in love with a girl, other than when I was 16 years old, and that didn't work out at all. I've been happy with my life recently, and thought that it could not get better. I was single, having one-night stands with women, and being free as fuck. But then came a certain girl.
I started doing routines on her and it all worked, but it didn't end up the way I expected it to. Unlike the others, I felt something more for her. So we started actually dating. Which, for me, was a rarity.
I fell deeply in love, in all honesty. Or as you guys call it, oneitis?
Thing is, it didn't last. Shit happened and we broke up. At first I was destroyed. I had not cried for a girl since I was 16 years old. And I cried for that new girl for about 5 days. It hurt like a bitch, but I realized that I can take it.
After a week or so, I realized something. I wasn't scared of loving a girl anymore.
I realized that the reason why I was only wanting sex was my insecurities towards love. By the way, I don't care if you feel offended by that.
The first girl I ever loved broke my heart, and that kept me from being a real man. I evaded relationships like the plague, and I didn't even notice. I thought I was just really independant, but I was wrong.
After the week of sadness I felt good again. Better even, I felt like a real MAN. I wasn't this weird little perverted fucker anymore, trying to hump everything that moves. I realized that I could actually be in a relationship, and that made me feel grand.
Now this is not to say that you should learn the pick-up arts just for relationships. Finding love takes time, and you sure as all hell can have some fun in the meantime.
Now here's the real point of my post, something you might actually take as a good tip for PUAs.
Don't fear love. Why? Because girls will smell it. I feel MUCH more comfortable around girls now that I know that I can be a gf guy. I don't just get girls for sex, I search for more now, and they love it. Of course, I do have one-night stands still, but I feel much more manly when around women. Kinda weird to explain, but yeah.
I might get hated for saying this, but a lot of you guys are probably insecure and scared when it comes to relationships. Maybe it's because of past experiences, like it was for me. Point is, for those of you who do, stop fearing it. Just let it happen. If it doesn't work out, well, fuck it. You tried, and you can get through the pain. There's a LOT to learn from being in a relationship, and you come out wiser.
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