Hey everyone, this is my first question post. I've read the site for a while and I decided to ask for input from this community that I've grown fond of.

I'm having issues with my self-image. In high school, I really didn't have an problem hooking up with girls, but a lot of the time it felt that the girls I was hooking up with were way below my standards (and a lot of other peoples too). These girls had personality flaws and weren't physically attractive. On this community's scale, they'd be seen as 5's and below.

The type of girls I want to be with are cute blonde/burnette sorority type. The thing is, I have always lost these girls because they always wanted what seemed to be the tall cute white guy.

See, I'm 5'8" and though I work out, my small asian frame still make me seem scrawny. I'm also half filipino half white, and I look more filipino then I do white and my face is pudgy and round. And because of my dad's genes, I can't get cut like my full-asian brethren. Thus, I'm athletic, but scrawny and have no definition.

Now I'm a junior in college and I feel that with the little time I have left to enjoy college, I still haven't made any headway with the girls here. I just get tossed aside as socially 'uncool' even though I display confidence, wear stylish clothes and have a humorous, outgoing personality. I feel that my height and my looks, no matter how hard I try to buy stylish outfits or make my body more attractive, hinders my ability to be a consideration to these girls.

I don't know, but maybe the game doesn't work well in college. It just seems very superficial and very oriented towards social status. However, I have gotten involved outside of school to be in a position to meet girls, so exposure is not an issue. I meet these girls, get their number, but after a couple of conversations, they just ignore me or go "well it was nice meeting you." No matter how much self-confidence I build within myself, the constant rejection kills it.

This all being said, how do you guys get past self-image issues when it feels like its the very reason that your not getting a certain type of girl? I don't want to be unhappy with a girl that I cannot be attracted too. I don't want to just settle and go for whats available.

How can I accept my body and my race and make it feel like a positive instead of a negative? How do I get past the superficiality of college and build attraction with girls that usually never date anybody but jocks? How can I get girls to want to view me not just as some short asian guy they met at a party, but as a potential friend or even lover? How can I get these girls to hang out with me?

I know this sounds desperate, but I'm really at a loss here. I don't want to be thinking back on college years and think that I missed out. I have gotten my hair styled, I am wearing what's in style here (SoCal), I have a tan, my teeth are white, my voice is good, I walk with confidence, I can have good conversation, etc. What should I do?

Thanks everyone

Hey bluearrowil, and welcome to the forums!
First secret Im going to tell you is, that your looks isnt the problem when we´re talking about getting good looking chicks. Its your mentality.

Sounds crazy, familiar, ok or what? Well, your game is like 60% mentality, 20% what you talk, 20% looks in my opinion. Let me proof this to you a bit:

Good looking guy:
+ 20% looks
+ 60% mentality (confidence, self-respect, knows he can get what he wants)
and then if he is good, he knows what he talks about.

"Worse" looking guy:
- No looks (this is like face burned guy with some abscesses)
- He loses his confidence/mentality % because he thinks he got no looks at all.
- He might not know what to talk about.

But really, looks dont only consist of that natural good looking, its taking care of yourself like you do (tan, teeth, wearing). If you want more looks, go to gym and get yourself ripped!

The thing is, you need to get your Inner Game in shape. Inner Game = Confidence, self-respect & so on. It doesnt only affect your womanizer skills, but it also makes your life all better.

Girls can fall in love with you, even if you are short. Girls like tall guys only because they seem more secure for them. You dont need to go under your standards. The first thing I want you to do is this:

1. Admit yourself that past is past, and you need to live in the moment. No future, no past, the moment that is now. Everyday is a new day, and you can make it like you want.

2. Positivity challenge. Always think about something positive, meaning that when something negative comes in your mind, quickly change your thoughts to something positive. Example: .... *thinking "I cant get that beautiful women there on the other side of the street"* -> *thinking "Oh shit, her shoes look like she found them from the landfill!"* or *thinking "I love this day, the air is so fresh right now"* and keep going.

DO positivity thing all day long, it might be hard at first, but it becomes easier all the time. You just need to fight for the first few days.

If want more to do, get in front of the mirror, put some of your favorite music on and dance with attitude while looking at yourself. Think that you are at the party and attracting all those ladies.

I believe in you man, you can do this shit! If you still miss some of the "magical words" of charming women, May I present to you, the Gunwitch Method:
http://www.gunwitch.com/ - For clubs and dancing when you dont need to talk as much, but kino. (if you dont know the term, it means touching)

If you want to attract women by talking, introduce yourself to:
- Cocky&Funny attitude: http://www.seductionbase.com/seduction/ ... index.html (PS. when first time trying it out, you might overshoot, but its normal). More you have used it, more it becomes part of your personality.
- Push&Pull concept: http://www.seductionbase.com/seduction/ ... index.html Excellent for creating attraction, nothing special at it, but a few knows its that what creates attraction.
- Being a alpha male: http://www.seductionbase.com/seduction/ ... index.html - Warning, try not to overshoot.

Hope this long post helps

College is alot more fun than high school and provides a ton of opportunities for game. I still can't bring myself to intentionally sarge around campus but If I see a cutie I make my moves. College Is about being social, diverse, and funny. Ive seen guys with absolutley no looks score beautiful women with their game. Its mind bogling. The techniques for High School definatley Apply to College. As me and my friend put school game, "School game is about knowing 80% of the guys." You must be the leader of men to lead the women.

Get involved in sports/clubs or talk to some hot students in the same class as you. Make your intentions to make friends and not necessarily game them if you don't feel like they are your type. Women who are interested in you Like to see that you have experience with women as a friend and as a lover. When you go for lunch on campus, go with a group of your boys. A big possy is always more noticeable then a smaller one. Be loud(not excessively just enough to steal a few glances) and look like your having fun. Go to throw out your trash and just start talking to the cute girl who was staring at you.

Girls smell social ineptitude from a mile away. Just seeming friendly will go a long way with girls, but dont be afraid to pull the trigger! If your talking with a girl thats attractive and you feel it falling into the friend zone dont be afraind to tell her that she is beautiful and you would love to continue the conversation with her another time.

Just be confident, your a junior and you have nearly all the girls on campus for the taking!

Waewae,

thanks so much man. this was a really positive reply and totally beat my expectation on what i was going to see.

so you're saying if my inner game gets better, then everything else falls in place? its possible to get the girls that don't seem attracted to short, small-framed half asian guys?

this stuff is really exciting

Sorry if I let you misunderstood. Lemme explain again:

Good looking guy is confident so his game is like this:
- Looks 20%
- Confidence/Mentality 60% - because he knows that he is attractive
- Talking & other something belong 0-20%

Total= 80-100% of the game you can get

Non-Confident & Not so good looking guy
- Looks 5-10%
- Confidence/Mentality below average, something like 20% because he doesnt think he is attractive because he thinks only looks matter.
- Talking & other something belong 0-20%

Total= 25%-50% of the game you can get

WITH THIS, Im only trying to show you, that looks matter only a little bit. But good looking guys attract women mostly because they are confident caused by that they know they can attract.

Your looks can be improved a bit (Gym and so on), but it alone doesnt help you so much.

Best way getting laid and attracting women, is getting your Inner Game/self-image/confidence in better shape.

In short: Looks make you confident -> you attract women.

Now, because if Im right, you are not confident with women. You need to start becoming one and soon you will have women.

If you are worried about small frames, go to gym.

Sounds good! Could you enlighten me more on college/high school game?

Waewae, is 100% right. Your inner game right here is the issue. Let me ask you a question. Have you ever have been attracted to a not so good looking girl and you didnt know why? Well there was something about here and that something was her presence. The way she carried her self, talked, and walked. You could have the same exact thing. Have you ever seen an average looking guy be succesful with women? I know I have. I thought to myself "Wow, how can she go for a guy like that? She should be talking to me!" Then I saw what that guy had and I didnt.

Confidence, happiness, and a good idea of who he is. He knew who he was and it showed. You could tell that the shit he was doing was natural and wasnt something he read about or was forcing to do. He was a natural. Let me tell you something. Women dont give a shit how you look as long as you bring positive emotional energy towards them and know how to make them feel good. You could be the ugliest guy in the world but if you know how to handle a woman and make her happy then shes all yours.

Women look for men who make them feel good. Women waqnt a confident and happy man who they can share their happiness with. If this doesnt prove to you that its not your looks that attract women than probably this will.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=apEoEbyIEO8
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