| I like this when you are at a small to moderate sized party/event when the girl will most likely be there for a few hours with you. In this case I'm at a friends party where everyone is spending the night so I know I have plenty of time.
She enters and is by far the hottest girl there. I hate direct approaching in this situation because they are very often used to it and know when they are much hotter than the 30 fat girls in the room. I continue to mingle and allow the opportunity to naturally arise where I pass by her and give a big friendly smile, look her in the eyes, and say "Hi". I just walk on by without the slightest concern if she says "Hi" back. If she says "Hi" I'll smile and continue by. If she opens to me then I can play from there.
I'm very friendly, smiling, and polite. I am not showing any interest. I go engage my friends and continue on with my good time. Every time I pass by her I look her in the eyes and give the same friendly smile as I pass by. Eventually in a setting like this you will be put in close proximity and a conversation will develop in a more "natural" way. It isn't a bar or club. Quickly approaching tends to be obvious and puts her on guard in this setting.
A few hours later I see her sitting in the kitchen with several of my friends. I go and take a seat facing my friends at a table which puts my back to her. We talk for a few and decide to go outside and make smores on the fire. I get up and turn around. As I "stumble" upon her sitting there I give her that smile "Come have some smores with us".
"Oh, I don't think, I don't really eat that stuff"
"OK", and I walk away not caring.
I am out there for all of 3 minutes when I find her taking a seat directly next to me. She starts asking me questions about who I am, where I'm from, etc. We are having a nice conversation and eventually everyone leaves the camp fire and us alone. We wound up talking for several hours. I asked her questions to qualify herself. I escalated with thumb wrestling and hot hands. We connected on many levels and I actually just enjoyed the conversation. I easily could have kiss closed or f closed. After getting to know her a bit, and she was going through some emotional times (as women always are), I decided to be gentlemanly. I gave her a kiss good night, we exchanged info, and promised to hang out again.
I text her a week later. We exchange hellos and I invite her to come hang out. She obliges. I waited for a spot to escalate through text. She is a Red Sox fan, I'm a Yankee fan. She brought up the Red Sox.
Me: "Don't tell me you're a Red Sox fan!"
Her: "What's wrong with that?"
Me: "I'm a Yankee fan. You guys are awful"
Her" "Oh I'm gonna have to wear my Red Sox tee when I see you!"
Me: "I was gonna say I'd have to rip that tee off......but that would be inappropriate...."
Her: "Well, we'll just have to see if it burns a hole in your floor when you rip it off!"
That mild suggestion, even acting like I wasn't going to really say that, lead to a lot of sexual escalation. She's coming to spend the weekend with me for our first hang.
Why did my approach work at the party?
First, I'm being an exception to the rule. I am not blatantly hitting on her. In fact, I don't seem interested at all. I am very friendly and comfortable with direct eye contact. I'm confident and easy going.
Second, I have social value. I have lots of friends, I'm having lots of fun, and I'm perfectly content with everything. I don't need her.
Third, I am not repulsing her with neediness. Mystery's "Time Constraint" gives the impression that you don't have much time and you won't be hanging around to long. A target or set will be at ease because they feel they don't have a leach. I'm in a position where I will be there all night also, so I have to demonstrate I am not clingy or needy.
It takes confidence that you WILL get her. In situations like these you should not rush in like you would at a club or at a bookstore. Take your time, demonstrate a positive and relaxed nature, and hold confident. The stronger the confidence in yourself, the stronger their attraction to you. _________________ Intergalactic Purveyor of Funk
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