hey guys,

I have this 2 year-old one-itis on and off, who I never even got the chance to talk with since she wasnt interested - but would never tell me straight up.

I now feel so stupid, and believe it has damaged my reputation, (its a really small town) with other girls and the friends of my one-itis.

Her best friend is in my class, one part of me wants to make her a life a living hell; and the other one wants to become friends with her, since she doesnt have that many friends and i sometime feel bad.
I also have the chance to fuck my one-itis over, by pulling her down and telling her she's a stupid bitch whos gonna end up where her mother was; in a mental institution.

I think by being "the jerk" it can give me back my self esteem, but fear it may damage a lot of the "nice guy" image ive built up.
Should I fuck them over, or should i become friends with them? What is the smartest?

Let her go, nothing good comes from hurting other peoples feelings. The only way anyway that your self-confidence is low is because your still stuck on her, and in reality, by breaking her down you will feel even worse.

- Exerio

There are many more trees in the forest.

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let her know u don't appreciate being lead on if it's true.

Seems your ego was damaged.....time for some Tolle's defeating your ego....detaching from your pain body etc....view your feelings from a third perspective.....

But don't do the Jerk things you listed.....not cool man....not cool. You shouldn't be a "nice" guy or "jerk" guy....just be a man. Tell her it was not cool to be lead on if it's true and move the hell on. That's life...shit happens. If she's truly that bad of a person to deserve those things....then for me, I'd get rid of her involvement in my life fast as I could, as much as I could and move on...not linger with her around more.

Not sure what you mean by not talk with her either....as in you've never talked to her?! If so...how can she let you know she's not interested?! Clarify.

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great response. i really liked that.

well,
i've never talked to her. but i'm close with some of her friends, and they think im cool, so i told them that i like her - one time i got drunk. they then called her, and told her about my feelings for her. but the girl started ignoring me and avoiding eye contact in school, making me look like an idiot infront of everyone, and i somehow managed to get her best friend against me.

she knows that i still like her, because i told her friends. but when they put in a good word for me, including my ex which spent 10 days with her in Croatia this summer, she just laugh about it and generally dont say anything about me.

the girl is not a HB, turns 21 in January, never goes out, never drinks and has never been with a man, nor dated anyone. EVERYONE know that i could have had her.
but i still think about her everyday, and i think most of this is due to that she didnt even want to talk to me, and THAT hurts. im constantly thinking about how i can change the way she feels about me, but i dont think i have any feeling for her, its just a pain in my heart thats been inflicted because of rejection.

i dont like her, i dont like her best friend, and i want to be treated with respect.
i just cant manage being rejected by someone of SO low value.

its messing up my game big time, including with some of her friends, that took interest before.
i want back my reputation, I just dont wanna look like a cock, and be laughed about by her.

seems that obviously need some closure.

one try game her

two do not be a total dick jerk.

or three talk to her admit to u ur ego being hurt i found that facing ur short coming and admittiting to them will help to overcome them.

or try this

I have had simmilar problems dude. i suggest talking with her, do not make her feel like shit or being a cock u will feel good for about 20 minutes than u willl feel like a total cunt. get urself into a happy mood talk to lots off people before hand than make a light conversation distance ureslef like its a totally new day game approach. if she is being a snoby bitch than bring it up. say u feel like u were beeing a lil biach afc childlish/noobish by tellin her friends how u felt, and it obviously bothers her, and see how she responds. than just say u dont understand why she is offended by the fact u liked her and would like her to explain. if she refuses to elaborate or freaks out there is clearly sommin messed up with her head so u should feel happy ur not involved with that crazy fuked up chick with issues and move on to the next its nothing wrong with u or ure not good enough she is just messed up big time.

if u can game her f close her it will pump ure ego up but not neccesserly put ure self esteem up.

or if u can just move on and game other girls.

hope this helps unless i totally misunderstood ure problem.

dom


i have a problem that i sometimes if i get bored of gaming or theyr not putting any effort or i feel my game isisint working I enjoy making them ballistic with me sometimes, i dunno why but it gives me kicks lol i think its a controll thing.

some times i love to be hated so to speak a way to sustain my ego .

dom

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if i have miss-spelled something its not because im stupid its because i cant be bothered to spell stuff properly while trying to type as fast as humanly possible

Dude...she's as naive as you are...so it seems...just game her like any other girl....really...why r u so into this chick....you haven't spent anytime with her?! What do you want from her in a perfect world??? List a perfect scenario....now after you obtain that r u still satisfied?

Well....can't type too much for now...going to band practice...do this and see what comes up...

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thanks for the inputs, we'll see what happens.

i'll definitaly not be the jerk, i just needed to vent.